Happy High Status: How to Be Effortlessly Confident

Product Information

Everyone wants to be able to face challenging situations without feeling daunted, intimidated or stressed. But no-one wants to be labelled over-confident, arrogant or smarmy, or to get caught up in their own hype. So how can you feel authentically confident - without the cringe, and without pretending to be something you're not?

Her estimate is that populations begin to recover from major disasters around the 30-year point. She adds: “Our grandchildren will wonder about how we didn’t give it the respect it deserves.” You have an incredible external awareness. You understand what’s happening underneath the surface. You understand group dynamics. You feel into the mood of the group as a leader. You know when to be silent. You know when and how to connect deeply. Kolarele Sonaike, a barrister and communications coach, formed a Zoom group during Covid of about eight “dad friends”; they have continued it as a fixed, non-negotiable weekly thing, sometimes online, sometimes in real life. The group is a big confidence-booster, he says: “It’s built-in now; we are regularly going to take time out of our week to do this. It’s guys being guys. We emote, we laugh, there are tears. The only rule is that outside the group we never talk about what was discussed inside the group. Seeing the challenges and difficulties that other people have … I can’t say it’s ‘curative’, but I think it keeps you sane.” You understand the fundamental aspect of humans. They are bored. People are bored. People are begging to be seduced, to be led astray and come alive. The high status person gives them this gift. Think about billion dollar problems. Think about your mission in life. Big thoughts fill your head. Contemplate BIG ideas. There is no time to be grounded in reality. 13. Touch peopleAs Viv Groskop wrote in her book ‘How to Own the Room’, it’s about a state of mind as well as an ease in your body. She talks about it from the point of establishing presence and confidence. Knowing that you really own your ‘status’ at a given moment in time, perhaps when you’re giving a speech or a presentation. Happy high status people are in control and confident, but generous and easy going with it. They seem to glide. There are no rules as to what it should be or look like, it’s very individual. Viv talks about Michelle Obama having loads of it which starts, she suggests, with having a strong posture and healthy body. Of course, I rushed off and read ‘Becoming’, Michelle Obama’s book recounting her journey from childhood to First Lady, and you can see how she found and developed her happy high status. Just knowing about this phenomenon made me feel less needy and desperate and more reassured and grounded. I still feel a pang of regret about many of the loose-tie friends I haven’t seen since late 2019 or early 2020. People who were work friends I used to see fairly often, but have fallen by the wayside. Or acquaintances who I might have looked forward to seeing often in 2020 and 2021, but who have moved on and whom I’ll probably never see again. It’s reassuring to know that the cultivation of these ties – and the missing of them – is just part of being human. If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no for now. The high status isn’t ‘floaty’ he is direct and decisive. This is reflected in conversation, movement and presence. 37. Be a master seducer Healthy entitlement is the sense that you have the right to want things, even if you might not get them. Or you can be like Conor McGregor’s level of entitlement: Watch this from 3:12 onward. 22. Master how to have great first impressions

Happy High Status is a state of mind usually seen in celebrities, however, is more relevant to the ‘average Joe’ than you might think. From a celebrity standpoint, it is where their status is so high that they are confident that, whatever comes their way, their status will be retained. If it’s absolutely terrible. I recommend you go to the Egoscue clinic. If it’s mediocre read an article about it here. 8. Be actually happy Her other, and maybe even more important point is that Michelle Obama wasn’t born with happy high status. That she had to build up to it, and that it took her a while. And that this means everyone else can learn it, too. (Phew.) Happy high status in writingPS. The power from a master seducer comes from his ability to BE seduced. Seduced by great food, art, beauty and romance. Be sensitive to pleasure (this puts you in a positive mood no matter what is happening). 38. You don’t need anyones approval. Introduction 00:01:22: Happy High Status explained 00:05:04: Becoming a stand-up comedian 00:11:08: Describing yourself using adjectives other than "confident" 00:16:03: Dealing with obstacles to Happy High Status 00:27:40: Dip a toe in the "what if" water 00:33:53: Well-known examples of Happy High Status 00:41:20: Viv's career advice 00:43:21: Final thoughts Interview Transcription

Read “Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It” by Kamal Ravikant for more. 3. Raise testosterone and lower cortisol

In any situation, take a moment to consider ‘what would someone with Happy High Status do right now?’ In most cases, they will be calm, collected and therefore always in control. Be kind, be humble and be respectful. Stay engaged with those around you, they will remember this. It seems to me that she’s describing the exact same thing that I called a ‘stance’ in my previous post. Well, she talks about public speaking, not content or copywriting. But they all come down to rhetoric. And her analysis holds some terrific stance advice for copywriters – and the brands we write for: The high status doesn't do anything for approval. He realizes it’s not his responsibility that people are comfortable in his presence. He doesn’t suppress his energy or spirit for anyone.

Follow the law of least effort. What can you communicate in a sentence that used to take a paragraph? The pandemic felt to me like being in prison, only you were not allowed to talk to or stand near any prisoners you were not related to.’ Photograph: Linda Nylind/The Guardian. Hair and makeup by Claire Portman using Origins and Aveda Happiness is just a deep contentment. You are happy with life and you take conscious steps every day to keep you in this state. I don’t think nor care about social hierarchies. I believe that social status is not good or bad, it’s just a tool you can use to help achieve your goals. Just like any other tool, you maximize the benefits and minimize the negatives.The world is your playground. You walk into a room and understand that it’s all a game. This is your playful philosophy on life.