A Good Old-Fashioned Spanking

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Kate also took quite a liking to me. She was very warm and motherly to me, which only made my crush on her grow stronger. I began to imagine what it would be like to be spanked by her. I would lie in bed at night and replay in my head the times I had seen Denise or Kristie being spanked – but substituting myself as the naughty child. When I got within arm’s reach of Kate, she pulled me across her lap and began spanking me with her hand, even harder and faster than she had spanked the girls. I am sure that I got the most spanks of any of us that day. Despite being a stern disciplinarian, Kate was also a very loving mom. She showered her daughters with hugs and kisses, liked to play and joke around with her them when they were being good, and comforted them after they had been punished. There is a difference between being stern and raising your voice in a commanding sense and all out screaming at your child. If you are in screaming mode you have obviously crossed into the anger zone. Screaming is a sign that you have lost control of the situation. At this point immediate discipline will likely be ineffective as the focus has turned from the rule that was broken, to a battle of wills. Final Thoughts

After Weekly Review, Melanie has fifteen minutes corner-time – standing on her little ‘naughty step’ out in the hall with her hands on her head and facing the mirror – to reflect on what she has got wrong in the previous week and to resolve to do better in the week ahead.I have found that appropriate disciplinary implements can be very useful tools, as they really do help me in my role as disciplinarian, to provide our daughter with creative and memorable chastisement. However it is important that the use of implements should be discussed in detail as part of the agreed arrangement between parents and their 18+ daughters. So the positive disciplinary approach which we have carried forward isn’t merely aimed at a short-term correction by spanking of behaviors that arise from one week to the next. Rather it is a disciplinary regime that constantly challenges Melanie to aspire to continuous improvement in every aspect of her life. At secondary school, having things thrown at you was very common or a very sharp snap of a ruler next to your hand on the table was pretty common.

Any kind of discipline that you use too often can become ineffective. I don’t know where the line is for “sparing the rod and spoiling the child” but I, personally, don’t think a kid should get lashes for every offense. Set Punishments Beforehand Wipe the slate clean. After the punishment is issued, let them know they are on good terms. The Wrong Way Don’t Spank When Angry (Most of the Time)Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.” – Proverbs 13:24 NIV Next we acquired an English school cane. It has a crook handle and is nice and thin and swishy. I had to learn how to use the cane, so I practised on a pillow so that I was sure of my control and accuracy before applying it to Melanie’s behind. With the cane I find it best to assign a limited number of strokes and then apply each with vigor, with long pauses between each stroke. The cane leaves pink stripes across Melanie’s behind, but because it is so light in weight, it doesn’t bruise and the pink marks disappear after 24 hours or so. spanked by her then husband carey grant. (confirmed) (contributed by henry) - Dyan Cannon was spanked Straus, MA et al. 2004. Psychological aggression by American parents: National data on prevalence, chronicity, and severity. Journal of Marriage and Family February 2004 https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2003.00795.x Opens a new window. [Accessed June 2020] When Dad had finished spanking me, he put me down and I started walking over to the pool. On previous occasions when I had been spanked, I had found the cool water very helpful on my sore butt. But Dad saw what I was up to and told me to sit right down on the hard wooden bench, which was very uncomfortable on my newly-sore bottom. Dad then grilled some meat (other than my butt!) and we ate outside once everything was cooked.