Lick Like a Lesbian

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They can be placed over the vulva or anus during oral sex to create a protective barrier and reduce the risk of STIs. If you're using sex toys or condoms, be sure to choose a water-based lubricant (as silicone and oil-based lubes are not all compatible with condoms and can compromise the effectiveness).

However, if you have a vulva and your partner has a penis - although they identify as female or non-binary - you will still need to use condoms or some form of contraception like the Pill, implant or coil (IUD).Part of the reason so many of us are unsure about how sex between two vulva-having people works, is because sex education is very heteronormative (meaning it focuses on straight/cisgender male and female couples and penetrative penis-in-vagina sex). Two cisgender women or vulva-having people in a couple do not need to worry about unwanted pregnancy. Also known as manual sex, fingering is a term used to refer to when someone stimulates the other’s vulva, clitoris, vagina or anus using their fingers or hands.

In truth, some queer people love scissoring and do it regularly, others say it doesn’t work for them and it’s not part of their sex lives. Hearst UK is the trading name of the National Magazine Company Ltd, 30 Panton Street, Leicester Square, London, SW1Y 4AJ. While transmission is less likely during oral sex than during penetrative penis-in-vagina or penis-in-anus sex, there are still many STIs that can be passed on.She adds, 'As much as this sounds like it might be painful, with lots of lubrication and being careful, it can result in a feeling of fullness without pain and be very satisfying.

For people with a vulva having sex with another person with a vulva, sex can be mutual oral sex,’ says Dr Lori Beth Bisbey, a sex and intimacy coach and psychologist for Ferly.

So here’s what you should know if you have a vulva and are having/planning to have sex with another vulva-having person. She says, ‘lots of kissing, erotic massage and BDSM play (spanking, flogging, restraints and blindfolds)’ can all be part of a queer person’s sexual repertoire.