His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage

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Over the years, I have repeatedly asked the question, “What could your spouse do for you that would make you the happiest?

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Joyce would like to get the same little notes from me, and I have tried to leave such notes behind—on her pillow, for example—when I go out of town. When they are unmet, that is unfair to the spouse who must go through life without ethical alternatives. Mary stands fast, and before John decides to leave her alone for a month, debits in Mary’s account total 200. In the next four chapters we will look at the two most important needs for most women (affection and intimate conversation) and the two most important needs for most men (sexual fulfillment and recreational companionship).Even if what you’re saying is partially “correct” the wording and CLEAR personal agenda are very distracting. You might even use two different-colored highlighters as you read, so each of you can let the other know what is most important to you. Family commitment is the active participation in the raising of the children with their moral and educational needs. For example, when a man agrees to an exclusive relationship with his wife, he depends on her to meet his sexual need.

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If a wife fails to understand the power of the male sex appetite, she will wind up having a husband who’s tense and frustrated at best. Most young husbands discover the falsehood of that assumption before very long; they learn the frustrating truth that the wonderful sexual discoveries they have made seem much less meaningful to their bride.The recent trend of demonizing certain terms has exasperated me to no end, constantly misinterpreting messages and totally missing intent because a speaker “seems” to have said something wrong and “seems” to be this and that instead of seeing the whole point; there are undeniable physiological differences between men and women, but NONE of them are 100% true in every case. If you feel especially loved when your partner shares their soul with you, becoming vulnerable, you have a need for honesty and openness. Husbands’ and wives’ needs are so strong that when they’re not met in marriage, people are tempted to go outside marriage to satisfy them. I have known bank presidents, successful politicians, pastors of flourishing churches, leaders in every walk of life who have thrown away careers and let their life achievements go down the drain for a special sexual relationship. He is more sexually experienced and motivated by strong desires; she is less (often much less) experienced, less motivated, and sometimes naive.

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That’s why I’ve written a counterpart to this book, Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love. Couple after couple explained to me that they married each other because they found each other irresistible—they were in love. Often, one person may be speaking without really listening to their partner, or they may focus on their own needs instead of those of their partner. But when I conducted all these interviews, I discovered the reason this is such a difficult assignment. Once there is resentment, lack of connection, and I assume a loss of trust, it is a long hard journey to gain them back.In the typical affair, a woman has sex with a man after he has demonstrated his care for her by showering her with affection. Your 13 Personal Needs are often the root cause of problems you experience in life and your marriage. For example, if someone flashes the color blue and gives you an electric shock and then flashes the color red and gives you a soothing back rub, eventually the color blue will tend to upset you and the color red will tend to relax you.

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When a partner shares their innermost thoughts and feelings, becoming vulnerable, they give a precious gift to their partner. Taking his turn to change baby’s diaper in the middle of the night is not John’s idea of a pleasant time.You each need to identify your emotional needs, and re-commit to providing each other with these needs. When they find someone encouraging and supportive, the attraction toward that person acts as a powerful magnet. We will start with the need for affection because when it’s met, it lays the groundwork in meeting the need for sex. As one thirty-two-year-old executive put it, “I feel like a fool begging her all the time but I can’t help it. When the love bank runs low or in the negative, we tend to look for ways to bring it back into the positive.