A Good Spanking

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Removal of privileges. For example, if your child keeps pushing people while playing, take the toy away for now and tell them why.

According to an article in The Journal of Sex Research, people may engage in spanking therapy for a range of reasons, such as : Time outs. A time out should last roughly 1 minute for each year of age (e.g. 2-minute time outs for a 2-year-old). But if spanking is an accepted form of punishment in your home, what are the chances that in a moment of anger you might lapse and resort to this punishment when you shouldn’t, or more aggressively than you should? Individuals may find it provides a new experience and a release from their everyday selves and responsibilities. Why might people like being spanked?It is meant to send a strong message, not to be used on a daily basis. And it should never be motivated by anger or meant to illicit feelings of shame or guilt. Sagarin, B. J., et al. (2015). Sadomasochism without sex? Exploring the parallels between BDSM and extreme rituals.

Power play: People may find it sexually arousing to play with power roles, such as becoming dominant or submissive. Others may also find it freeing to release responsibility and power in a controlled environment. Escapism or sense of adventure: People may find spanking therapy a way to change their routine and elevate their experience from mundane or everyday matters.

However this is not the only reason people have a desire to be spanked as there are several other psychological theories which state other ideas. De Neef., et al. (2019). Bondage-discipline, dominance-submission and sadomasochism (BDSM) from an integrative biopsychosocial perspective: A systematic review. Statement by international health organizationsin support of prohibition and elimination of all corporal punishment of children.(n.d.) According to a 2015 article, people may take part in BDSM activities such as spanking for nonsexual reasons. Begin the spanking. Strike the child's bottom gently, never hit hard. It doesn't take a lot of force to successfully discipline your child, and hitting too hard can cause injury or trauma. Plus, the symbolism of the act is just as important as the actual pain inflicted. Not hitting too hard is even more important with a spanking on the bare bottom and/or younger children.

You’ll be hard-pressed to find any large-scale research that shows spanking to be effective in changing behavior and having no negative effects. But there are some studies out there that suggest spanking administered by “loving, well-intentioned parents” in a “nonabusive, disciplinary” environment can be an effective form of punishment.To avoid injury to your child, you should keep a safe distance from the genital area, the coccyx (tailbone) and the kidneys of the child.

One patient of mine was very young when her father spanked her for something he believed she had done wrong. Her dad reacted very angrily, and spanked her hard on her bare bottom causing a lot of shame, rather than holding on to the shame it’s common for people to later in life turn the traumatic experience into a sexual one to help cope with what they have experienced, leading to a strong emotional connection between spanning and sex, which now manifests as a spanning desire or fetish. Every major health organization has come out against spanking. And several international organizations have even issued a call for criminalizing corporal punishment. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) strongly opposes striking a child for any reason. According to AAP, spanking is never recommended. The experts are all in agreement on this fact: Research shows that spanking does more harm than good. 2. Spanking teaches aggressionThe key is that the spanking must be administered in a calm, loving environment. Remember, the focus is on helping a child to learn appropriate behavior, as opposed to simply satisfying a parent’s frustration in the heat of the moment. 2. All children are different One thing is clear: Experts in this field stand firm that spanking should only be used in a very specific set of circumstances. That is, for children in the preschool age range that have committed truly willful disobedience — not small acts of defiance. It should never be used for infants, and rarely for older kids with better communication abilities. Spiritual experience: Some people report that SM practices alter their state of consciousness, providing them with a sense of connection, wholeness, and mind expansion. It usually occurs around a particular traumatic episode, which is then stamped into the child’s psyche,’ Dr Spelman explains.