Practicing Wisdom: The Perfection of Shantideva's Bodhisattva Way

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A: Affect (or emotions). Learning to identify what another is feeling and naming it can help us better understand their behavior or the message behind their words. In a passage which provides one of the most succinct and direct rationales for a concern with attending to, and knowing, our selves Parker Palmer draws out the implications of his argument. From William James, considered the founder of American psychology: “Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequence of any misfortune.” Though all lived in the Roman Empire in the first and second centuries, the lives of the Roman Stoics were very different. Seneca (4 BCE - 65 CE), left, was adviser to the Roman Emperor Nero, and was eventually exiled and forced to take his own life, as depicted in Peter Paul Rubens’ famous 1615 painting. Epictetus (50 CE - 135 CE), center, was a slave who gained his freedom and set up a philosophical school. Marcus Aurelius (121 CE - 180 CE), right, was Emperor of Rome during a time of constant crisis, be it war or plague, and outlived most of his children. These concerns led him to be careful when talking of compassion, to distinguish between such caring and pity. The latter, he believed inevitably embodied a tendency to superiority, to looking down on the other. ‘Real compassion is often uncomfortable and disturbing’, he wrote. ‘It enlightens rather than lubricates. It has few intentions and works in an unflaunting way and unselfconscious way’ (1990: 58).

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And, even though he was a Roman emperor who lived almost 2,000 years ago, the struggles Marcus writes about are often remarkably relatable to our lives today. When you’re next finding it difficult to get out of bed one cold morning, for instance, consider this passage: For example, which would be a healthier choice at a party: Pizza or salad? The salad is only healthier if that’s what you really want. Otherwise, you might feel deprived and end up overeating later. Enjoying pizza mindfully as part of a celebration allows for the many roles that food plays in our lives. We can often end up feeling satisfied with less when it does.

As Alistair Ross (2003: 46) has commented, counselling skills such as these are important and can be developed through reflection and training. However, ‘no matter how good a person’s skills, they must be matched by relational qualities’. Conclusion Gently close the eyes if you feel comfortable doing that, or direct the eyes towards the floor while seated or lying down. Carl Rogers’ exploration of the helping relationship, and his formulation of the core conditions has stimulated a lot of debate and some disagreement. For example, there are questions around empathy; whether we ever stand in someone else’s shoes (this is why Nel Noddings talks about ‘sympathy’). This said the spirit and direction of what Rogers says, and the framework that these conditions offer, provides us with a good starting point and orientation to exploring and fostering helping relationships. Does helping involve seeing people in deficit? Attending and listening. In particular Culley and Bond ( ibid.: 17-8) are interested in ‘active listening’ by which they mean ‘listening with purpose and responding in such a way that clients are aware they have both been heard and understood’.

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Of course, we are not the only people who recognize the importance of practical wisdom. Watch the following video and ask yourself how these ideas connect to teaching.

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Share your wisdom with others. That’s not to say you should tell people what to do; rather, lead by example. Show others the wisdom of being open, nonjudgmental and thoughtful in all situations. Think about the mentors who helped you along the way, and find ways to play that role for other people who might be able to benefit from what you've learned. What you can do though is be a mentor to others who are in need by practicing things that were discussed in this article. wikiHow is a “wiki,” similar to Wikipedia, which means that many of our articles are co-written by multiple authors. To create this article, volunteer authors worked to edit and improve it over time. Defining Evidence-Informed Practice, Evidence-Based Practices, & Evidence-Based Practice in Social Work