Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too (How to Help Your Child)

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Bouchard G, Plamodon A, Lachance-Grzela M. Parental intervention style and adult sibling conflicts: The mediating role of involvement in sibling bullying. J Soc Pers Relat. 2018;36(8):2585-2602. doi:10.1177/0265407518793227 Always encourage siblings to be a team . Even if they loose - it won't be against each other. Avoid competition games between Don't put siblings in roles. Be wary of statements like "She's the athlete in the family", etc. We want to make it clear to our children that the joys of scholarship, dance, drama, sport are for everyone and not reserved for those who have a special aptitude. Ross HS, Lazinski MJ. Parent mediation empowers sibling conflict resolution. Early Educ Dev. 2014;25(2):259-275. doi:10.1080/10409289.2013.788425

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You can see that I have put tons of little flags in my copy. What you don’t see are all the highlighted sections and notes written inside too. It also occurred to us that we had an unusual opportunity through our nationwide speaking engagements to find out what parents around the country felt about sibling problems. We soon discovered we had a hot topic on our hands. Wherever we went, the very mention of the words "sibling rivalry" triggered an immediate and intense reaction.

Effective parenting is one of the key strategies to secure the wellbeing and good future of your kids. Instead of giving equal time “After I’ve spent ten minutes with your sister, I’ll spend ten minutes with you.” Give time according to need “I know I’m spending a lot of time going over your sister’s composition. It’s important to her. As soon as I’m finished, I want to hear what’s important to you.” The reason I liked it so much, is that it shows parents how to teach their children how to communicate their feelings with each other and how to effectively cooperate together. Seriously, who doesn’t need those skills?

That is where it becomes essential to understand the source of the child's "meanness," which is characterized by frequent hostility toward siblings and general troublemaking. Only through understanding it will parents be able to empathize with their children and choose the right approach to reduce or even eliminate conflict between children. So where does a child's "meanness" originate? The book Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too answers these questions. It challenges conventional wisdom by claiming that sibling conflicts are not inevitable. Parents can escalate sibling rivalry, or they can de-escalate and even eliminate it. Parents can allow children's hostile feelings to build up and explode, or they can help kids to release those feelings safely. Parents can worsen conflict between children or they can make cooperation possible.