Eight Dates: Essential Conversations For A Lifetime Of Love

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As anything that really matters, a relationship is something that needs a lot of work to be put in. Happy endings never happen by chance, they happen because two people trust each other so much and are willing to do the work to build a life together, with its highs and lows. Vulnerable Leadership: 6 Tips on Being Vulnerable as a Leader from Dare to Lead Facilitator Kathy Bell-Tonic The Turn-Toward Date: This date is focused on building emotional connection and intimacy through understanding and responding to each other’s needs and emotions. The goal of this date is to help couples become more attuned to each other’s emotional states, and to learn how to respond to each other’s needs and emotions in a supportive and caring way. This date is designed to help couples build a deeper emotional connection and intimacy with each other, and to create a more supportive and loving relationship. To do this, couples can practice active listening and empathic responding, which involves listening attentively to each other’s emotions and needs and responding in a caring and supportive way. This can help couples build a deeper emotional connection and intimacy with each other, and can also help them feel more supported and understood by their partner. Eight Datesprovides an excellent framework to help couples have these easy-to-avoid but crucial conversations. Whether you are already in a long term committed relationship or are just starting one, Eight Dates is an essential guide to building and maintaining true and lasting love. Based on decades of scientific studies and clinical wisdom from our world's leading visionaries in romance, this fabulous book will enable you to engage in fun and constructive conversations to nurture a love that can grow for a lifetime!" --Daniel J. Siegel, MD, New York Times bestselling author, Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence

JOHN GOTTMAN, PHD, is the bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and numerous acclaimed books. His breakthrough work has won him four National Institute of Mental Health Research Science Awards, and he is a frequent guest on national media. He also co-founded the Gottman Institute with his wife, Julie. Julie Gottman, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the cofounder and President of The Gottman Institute. She is the cocreator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshops for couples, and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Couples Therapy. She is Author/co-author of five books: Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, And Baby Makes Three, 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, The Man’s Guide to Women, and The Marriage Clinic Casebook. Julie lives in Seattle. Generally, holidays are meant to commemorate some event, person, or group of cultural or religious significance. Although certain holidays, such as Christmas and New Year's Day, are widely celebrated worldwide, most countries have their own set of holidays that are specific to the country, and even the same holidays may be observed differently within countries: some may receive a full suspension of typical daily activities, while others may only get partial days off. Certain countries have holidays that essentially shut down almost all businesses. As an example, in Brazil, Carnaval do Brasil results in almost a full week in which only industrial production, retail establishments, or carnival-related businesses, function.

John and Julie Gottman have been studying couples for a few decades and researched what are the behaviors that can result either in break-ups or happily ever after. With some adorable examples both from their own life and the couples they studied - they propose a framework for fundamental conversations. The topics range from money, trust, sex, spirituality - where each one of us has a strong perspective and a personal history usually quite different from our partner. These conversation are based on active listening and strong, open ended questions and a bit of preparation before-hand. And a lot of curiosity. A radical book from the world's top relationship councillors reveals the 8 dates that could make your marriage last forever * Daily Mail * This book walks couples through eight conversation-based dates to help them strengthen their connection and discover new things about each other. As we made our way through the eight dates, we shared long-forgotten stories from our childhoods, rediscovered the power of rituals, revealed our fears about money and sex, debated how many kids we wanted, and shared our dreams. By the end, we agreed it made our relationship stronger. Doctors John and Julie Gottman have spent over three decades studying the habits of 3000 couples. Within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, they can predict who will stay happily together or who will split up, with 94% accuracy. Based on their findings on the ingredients to a happy, lasting love life, they have now created an easy series of eight dates, spanning:

The Conflict Resolution Date: This date is focused on learning how to effectively manage and resolve conflicts in the relationship. The goal of this date is to help couples develop the skills and strategies they need to effectively manage and resolve conflicts in their relationship. This date is designed to help couples build a more harmonious and supportive relationship by learning how to effectively manage and resolve conflicts. To do this, couples can practice effective communication skills such as using “I” statements, active listening, and problem-solving techniques. They can also learn how to manage their own emotions and needs in conflicts, and how to effectively negotiate and compromise with each other. This can help couples build a more harmonious and supportive relationship by learning how to effectively manage and resolve conflicts. The importance of playing and adventuring together and the role of phenylethylamine (PEA) in creating a natural high Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love is a book by John Gottman that provides a guide for couples to deepen their understanding of each other and strengthen their relationship through eight conversations. The book is based on Gottman’s research on couples and relationships, and aims to provide couples with the tools and skills they need to have meaningful and productive conversations about their relationship.

Continue by sharing three ways your partners contribute to the relationship (monetary or otherwise) that you really appreciate I'm sure there are a lot of similar books around, and while I can't compare this one to them, what I can say is that I loved the concept of these dates. It helped us center our conversations around a particular topic in a particular setting, while letting us apply our own modifications that suited our relationship and our personalities. Book Genre: Communication, Language, Love, Marriage, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Psychology, Relationships, Romance, Self Help, Unfinished I doubt your idea of a fun date night is discussing the things you fight about or examining why you’re a saver or a spender. We rarely set aside time in our busy lives to discuss life’s hardest topics.

Because this is for sure: Happily ever after doesn’t mean there are no challenges or conflict. You can’t be in a relationship and not have conflict. Not if you’re doing it right.” Scott shared a hilarious story about how his mom refused to buy him JNCO jeans — the pinnacle of fashion for middle schoolers in the late ’90s. This led us down the rabbit hole and we Googled the jeans ( here). No wonder his mother refused to buy them.

When you’re joining your life with someone else, money will inevitably become a significant influencer in your lives. And this date is not just about how much money you have in the bank, but about what quality of life you want, what your values are, and how you both contribute to your shared life. Relationships are not always easy, but leading researcher Dr. Gottman has developed a guideline to bring you and your partner closer together. These eight dates each center on a theme, and they inspire life-changing conversations to help strengthen your bond with your partner. Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, written by the Gottman's of the Gottman Institute, is a book about growing, learning about and supporting your romantic partner. The Gottman's look at some of the main sources of conflict and misunderstanding in relationships, and break these categories down into eight dates covering the following: trust and commitment, conflict, sex and intimacy, work and money, family, fun and adventure, growth and spirituality, and finally dreams and aspirations. Each date contains a paragraph to read, with questions to ask and answer for each partner.

This book is for any couple: those just starting to date, about to get married, or have been in a 20 year marriage. This book is not just about “testing” your alignment across 8 topics. Great relationships are built - and this book can serve as a guide to long-term relationship satisfaction. This program of eight lively, conversation-based dates will result in a lifetime of understanding and commitment, whether you’re newly in love or have been together for decades. Readers who do not prepare for and complete the dates are unlikely to enjoy Eight Dates. Conclusion The eight most important elements of a successful marriage are fidelity, good sex, division of chores, adequate income, good housing, shared religious beliefs, shared interests, and children.

It’s important for couples to share their dreams with each other. Keeping your dreams from your partner leads to bitterness, resentment, loss of passion and desire, and distance. Having sex and intimacy is proven to help keep a relationship happy and healthy. Talking about sex should be a regular part of your communication as partners. Even if it feels awkward at first, the more you can open up about sex, the better your sex life will be (and it will only become more comfortable the more you do it). on Vulnerable Leadership: 6 Tips on Being Vulnerable as a Leader from Dare to Lead Facilitator Kathy Bell-Tonic Studies have shown that dual-career couples with young children spend only 10% of their evenings together, with most of that time spent discussing errands. (In other words, they have to work extra hard to keep that romantic spark alive…)