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And this cannot have been an easy task for the author. Throughout the book, Reid explains how much her work has affected her. Both the personal trauma of facing her own feelings and the external trauma of the number of white people who've tried to erase her experiences to make themselves feel better. So, getting educated, asking those difficult questions when you don't know the answer and going outside of your comfort zone are equally as important. A great ally is one who is informed and is continually updating their knowledge. It is important to not cut to the end of the book or read a summary version. Only then can the impact be really felt. I use the word “ally” loosely because I find it overused and often abused by those who label themselves “allies.” Despite its current misuse, using a different word would only cause confusion. As you read through this guide, be aware that your definition of “ally” may not be the same as the definition I’ll introduce you to. What’s so special about this guide?
Whenever you see someone being discriminated against, abused, or marginalised, speak up - if it is safe to do so,” says Chloe. And it is work. It’s about actively unlearning the things that might seem normal but actually are oppressing someone else.” But while I've said The Good Ally is easy to follow, I don't mean it's an easy read. Racism and anti-racism is a difficult topic to process. It took me a while to finish this book, simply because it took time to take in everything I was reading. What Rankine said here (and, more recently, here and here) is that the problem with the man’s question is that it assumed that she was the one with a problem:
Being an active bystander
Do not take credit for the labor of those who are marginalized and did the work before you stepped into the picture
What I’m writing, reading or thinking and what other people have written or thought, painted, made or designed: things I would love to have made, in a parallel universe where time is infinite and all things are possible. The writing style was easy, straightforward and structured in a helpful way, Nova Reid has nailed a perfect conversational style to her writing that makes even difficult subjects like this easy to follow and understand on a personal level. Because we can think more clearly about stepping on someone’s literal toes than we usually do when it comes to oppression, the problems with many common responses are obvious: This was one of the most challenging chapters to read and process as the author describes the relentless physical and mental effect microaggressions have on victims. Many would-be allies fear making mistakes that could have them labeled as “-ist” or “-ic” (racist, sexist, transphobic, homophobic, etc). But as an ally, you’re also affected by a system of oppression. This means that as an ally, there is much to unlearn and learn—mistakes are expected. You need to own this as fact and should be willing to embrace the daily work of doing better.Nova makes a dedicated effort in explaining racism within the British context and experience. This alongside her use of data, case studies, empathy, reflective questions and inspirational quotes makes this book stand out to me.
Consume books, art, media that step outside of your lived experience and look at your circle - are you living in an echo chamber? Do all your friends and colleagues look like you? It might be time to take a step out of your comfort zone.” Apologizing means letting go of your ego to show that you care about someone and want to make things right. Good apologies center the person being apologized to. They also take direct ownership of the actions that caused pain by naming them clearly. Think of this guide as one of many starting points in your journey to become a better ally. This guide isn’t meant to be comprehensive nor is it perfect. There are people far more versed than I, who have dedicated their life’s work to this sort of education. The Good Ally delves into a hard subject to read about, whoever you are. Anti-Racism. This might be because you've been oppressed by racism your whole life, and it's traumatic to think about it head-on. Or it might be because it can be hard to accept exactly how much racism has impacted the world you grew up in. Apologies aren’t a magic fix and won’t solve mistakes of the past, but there are a few attributes that make for a good apology.
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Context can include your current mental state (are you feeling defensive? Upset? Nervous? Calm?), the physical space you're in (private or public area), or the apology’s medium (phone, online, text message, in person). Nova's book for me is a mental health manual for dealing with the everyday issues that arise when navigating a system that seeks to deny the existence of structural racism. She not only gives the reader detailed examples of the things that can and do arise, she also expertly offers solutions that help deal with them.' While you’re already on Google getting to grips with every letter of the LGBT+ alphabet you can explore the history of the LGBT movement. Getting to know the history of LGBT activism is an empowering act in becoming an LGBT ally. As well as honouring the effort and sacrifices of those that have come before, it’s important to appreciate how far we have come in the struggle for equality to fully understand how far we have left to go. 3. Discover the challenges facing the LGBT community today
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