How to Be Confident: The No.1 Sunday Times Bestseller

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James’ book is the tough love version of life coaching. He tells you straight, refers to his own experiences in life and makes you laugh along the way.’ Metro You might not get the desired outcome but this is an important part of personal development . Don’t make it about the outcome but the progress.

When you come to understand this, you’ll be able to turn on your confidence at a moment’s notice. And when you know how to do this, you’ll start finding more of the success you seek. Loss aversion- stops people wanting to spend inherited money. The idea of giving up something feels more painful than what you could potentially gain.Spend little time worrying about what others think of you. Don’t waste energy. What you see in others is their highlight reel. People aren’t paying attention to you as much as you think (In the gym people look at you as something to do between sets). No one cares about you like you do, they will not focus on you as much as you do.

Repetition is linked to success. Everything will feel clunky at the start (cognitive and mechanical) but then it will become automatic and fluid (think of using the car clutch at the beginning compared to now)Build trust in yourself step by step like that you would with others. Just do one thing you have enough courage to do that works towards your goals. Smaller version of something you’re scared of. sunk cost fallacy - eg just because you’ve been with someone for years doesn’t mean it’s right- people can stay just because they don’t want to waste the resources they’ve already invested. Change your metric of success, change the goal posts. Make the success just being an attempt and don’t worry about if you actually succeed in it this time. Don’t know if you got a boyfriend but here’s my number text me if you fancy a drink. Simply saying this will be a success regardless if they actually call. Surround yourself with people with an abundance mindset.The quality of a persons life is a direct reflection of the expectation of their peers. Dangerous risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet that you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.

I know what your thinking, what does positive thinking have to do with Confidence. But here me out. This book, with out a doubt belongs in this selection of the best books on confidence because of the wisdom provided chapter after chapter by the late great Norman Vincent Peale specifically for helping its readers lead a more positive and confident life. when not confident to speak you can always start with ‘I could be wrong but’ … it disarms hostility and embraces ignorance. We can’t know everything. We’re terrified to be wrong . But we can accept responsibility and shows you’re open to other views. I found James Smith on TikTok, where he eloquently (and confidently) explained the Swimmer's Body Illusion in a fitness context. I did not know what it was and knowing it made my life better. No age limit to learning something new. Don’t put it off any longer. Yes you could have done it ten years ago, the second best time is now.Huge power in vulnerability, builds trust and learning opportunities. Being yourself can only improve your confidence.Life’s too short to be anyone but yourself .