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Lara: A lot of people talk about how doing things by hand—whether it was writing by hand or doodling or painting opens their creativity and helps them see the work in a different way. Maybe it’s old fashioned, but I still feel like women have this otherness. You’re not just an artist you’re a female artist. Lara: I think that that would make the publishing experience feel a little safer—to feel like you’re not out there all alone.

Lara: Hippocampus Magazine is a literary magazine, and it’s read by a lot of writers. So a lot of my questions are going to be more on your process and your decisions and writing than your life decisions, because your life is your business. Lotte: Yeah, yeah. That’s another motive for me wanting to publish. There’s a chapter towards the end where I go on a date with a writer. And this was a guy with a massive platform, who had ostensibly one of the best jobs in the world, and he’d written this dating memoir, and I was just like, you’re a piece of shit, and how is your opinion getting projected? The things you’re saying are heinous, like, but it somehow falls on deaf ears because you’re funny. In an absolute act of submission this playful, hilarious, candid book dares to lay things bare for our entertainment. Highly recommended." - Susanna Kleeman, author of Twice And one of the chapters is called “A Rake’s Progress” which is an opera by Stravinsky that’s based on a series of eight paintings by William Hogarth in the 1700s. I’ve got this poster of a “A Rake’s Progress” up on my bedroom wall. I love it! … Sounds weird but I was really obsessed with the one-dimensionality of it as a story. Why anyone would bother making something so literal into an opera is beyond me. Absolutely no plot twists. It’s almost biblical in a fetishistic way; like “Story of O” is, or de Sade’s “Justine and Juliette”. As a woman you’re made aware that this “slippery slope,” this “fall from grace,” that starts from losing your virginity and the decline of your “virtue” henceforth—I wanted to take that to its nth degree—My sex/death drive is similarly monotonous. “Race you to the bottom!” Lara: You know, I said, we’re not going to talk about the political aspect, but someone said “all writing is political.” But I always thought you know, if women could separate sex from emotion, they could rule the world.

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Lara: Yes, exactly. The way to not be seen as representative of a whole group is if there’s more stories out there—the only way that you can really be seen as an individual is if you’re not the only voice.

And I think that with women, it’s much harder than for men—you are labeled like, this is who you are. This is your entire being. Whereas a man I feel like it’s more accepted that oh, this is his behavior, not his person.Latham υποψιάζεται επίσης ότι υπάρχει επικάλυψη του sugar dating – ο όρος αφορά τις συμφωνίες μεταξύ νεότερων γυναικών (sugar babies) και μεγαλύτερων ανδρών (sugar daddies) που έρχονται με δώρα και «επιδόματα» – λόγω του μεγάλου αριθμού ανδρών που είδε εκεί, να «λυγίζουν τις πιστωτικές τους κάρτες για τα νεότερα ραντεβού τους». Lotte: I know that this interview isn’t meant to go this way, but how do you write about sexuality? Is it fiction or fact? Latham δοκίμασε για πρώτη φορά «τη γνωριμία με τη ζάχαρη» το 2015 σημαίνει ότι η σκηνή έχει φτάσει σε σημείο κορεσμού. «Έχω ακούσει ότι υπάρχουν 25 γυναίκες για κάθε άντρα» λέει. «Όταν υπάρχουν περισσότερες προσφορές, υπάρχει μεγαλύτερος ανταγωνισμός και άνθρωποι που προσπαθούν να σε παζαρέψουν στις τιμές, λέγοντας: «Η προηγούμενη κοπέλα μου έκανε αυτό», κάτι που δεν μπορείς να επαληθεύσεις. Το τελευταίο μου ραντεβού ήταν με έναν άντρα που προσπαθούσε να ζητήσει στοματικό σεξ τύπου try-before-you-buy στο πίσω μέρος του αυτοκινήτου του». Lotte: It’s refreshing to hear you say that, because most of the interviews I’ve done so far have been on the subject matter, or the politics behind sex work. And when I see the interview going in that direction, I kind of want to be like, no, no, no, I’m not your spokesperson for sex workers. So this is great.

In my opinion, sugar-dating is open to abuse. It’s an oversaturated pool with the advantage in the sugar-daddy’s favour. I often had my arm twisted into things like not using condoms. And with only their word to go by, I’d haggle my price on hearing other arrangements were cheaper. Manipulation, false promises, and ghosting are commonplace. Counter to the perception that there’s an equal playing field for all, it also tends to work out more lucratively for conventionally good-looking, able-bodied, white, cisgender sugar-babies. Lara: I don’t know, I feel like the ending had, agency or self-acceptance like, ‘This is who I am. I’m going with this. This is fine.’ I didn’t see it as obliteration. Lotte: Yeah, and maybe subconsciously, or not subconsciously, maybe there was an element of self-protection. I find, personally, that people like to tell me that I’m damaged or that I am acting out, or that that my behavior is a symptom of some kind of childhood abuse or something. Lara: Yeah, that actually makes a lot of sense to me personally. I feel like the things that I’ve done, where I felt the most liberated are often the things that I feel most ashamed of later, because of how other people would view them, not how I personally view them.And it starts sort of at a particular moment in the not too distant past, because the pandemics in there, but it you don’t go into your childhood, you don’t go into like how you wound up here. Lara: I am bisexual, and my mom is a lesbian, and I work with a lot of queer writers. And that’s a conversation that we often have—if you talk about this thing in your past, people are going say, that’s why you’re lesbian, and then you don’t want to feed into people’s stereotypes. I spoke to the BBC earlier in the week. And I asked them if they wanted me to shout out a campaign we were doing? And they gave me a line to say, and I just kept on fluffing it up. Lotte: I also think that about sex work—hopefully there’s going to be more stories. And the fact that the press are now much more comfortable talking about sex work than they used to be—it’s having a bit of a moment, at least here in the UK. Times are changing, and hopefully there’s going to be more stories circulating, maybe there’ll be more honest portrayals of different structures of work.