A Girl's Guide to Femdom: Tips, Tricks, Rituals and Punishments for Every Week of the Year

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This is one of the most intimate forms of dominance. Penetrating your mans arse encompasses many of the core values of this guide; dominance, humiliations, affection, pain, submission and more. There’s a popular saying that goes thus: Experience is the best teacher. This saying has been proven to be right in various areas of life. For example, a beginner golfer is better placed to snatch victory over someone who’s never played golf in their life. Although the beginner is believed to have limited abilities, they still have more experience than a complete novice. Warming up his ass: If he is new to anal sex, you need to read my anal sex training guide, it will show you and him how to warm up the ass and get it ready for any size pegging dildo.

Cum Play: Take his used condom and make him facial himself, even clean himself up after. For us, these are all things that would make me forgive him. This is the kind of femdom you use on a one-night stand to completely bend his mind and show him the power of submission, it’s also great for beginners and people who don’t enjoy the punishment, the humiliation, and the harder parts of the femdom kink. He must admit that he wants you to dominate him. (This is an important step allowing him to come to terms with what he truly wants.) Tell him he will be used to please your desires.

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Dom/sub sex often involves BDSM toys and gear as these kinds of tools can help to create the right kind of power dynamic. However, some of these toys are hardcore and potentially dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. Don’t be nervous or insecure; be proud of your kinks and enjoy yourself. This is important both inside and outside of the bedroom. If you’ve decided to broach the topic of dominant sex with someone, don’t mumble something awkwardly under your breath, take a leaf out of Mr. Grey’s book, and openly declare ‘I’m a Dominant.’ Ropes and other restraints, in particular, can be very dangerous as they can restrict your blood circulation if used incorrectly. Before you try and use any BDSM gear, do your research. Apart from penetration, you can introduce butt plugs or anal beads to the play. These toys can even help you stimulate your man’s prostrate—a sensitive internal organ—through the anus, delivering extra pleasure to your partner.

Different subs have different fantasies and reasons for enjoying being dominated. If you want to really drive your sub wild in bed, you’ll need to understand what these fantasies are. A switch femdom for us means that we both take turns being the submissive and dominant one and we sometimes play a game of doing exactly what you do to the other, so if you peg your husband, he gets to peg you the next time you switch. My boyfriend and I love this type of playing, it changes things up a lot and keeps everything fresh. Worship Me Oral play is another femdom scene idea that can enhance your experience. Your oral slave—your partner—should always be ready to go down on you whenever you’re horny. However, you shouldn’t allow the man the luxury of touching himself. Of course, you will never return the favor because he’s entirely at your service. You’ll also need to think about caveats. For example, part of your arrangements might be for you, as the Dom, to control the finances, but what if you become ill? Is your sub allowed to pay the shared bills while you’re away? After the contract is signed it’s a good time to get yourself a collar, this is like a wedding ring or the bdsm and kink world to the sub from the dom.Clothes: Have him wear female clothes for an hour (I like to choose my sluttiest tightest mini dress) or make him dress like that for an entire day if he has been really bad. Humiliation: I love this part but not all subs are into it. Humiliating them with words, acts, and punishments is all part of making a great femdom queen. These scenes usually take place during sex, but some people like the D/s dynamic to continue in other parts of their relationship too. Scenes can involve any kind of sexual or non-sexual power exchange. For example, you might have your sub pour your drinks, serve your food, or give you a massage.