Who Needs a Spanking? (Alexia's Books)

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Still, we want any discipline we use to be effective long-term–and we certainly don’t want it to be harmful.

In the same way that doctors don’t encourage alcohol consumption during pregnancy, psychologists certainly don’t recommend the use of spanking. For example, if you are willing to reason with a girl who misbehaves, but resort to spanking immediately when a boy misbehaves, this is unfair. A few generations ago, if you acted out in class, you could have been met with a paddle or yardstick to the bottom–and possibly gone home with bruises. If you feel that you absolutely must spank your child, bend them over your knee and spank them on the buttocks, being sure to avoid their coccyx, genitals, and kidneys.How spanking has these effects comes down to the release of feel-good endorphins and hormones such as oxytocin, dopamine, and adrenaline. Children who were re‐directed by using other forms of guidance or discipline were shown to have an IQ score of five points higher than children who were spanked.

To avoid injury to your child, you should keep a safe distance from the genital area, the coccyx (tailbone) and the kidneys of the child. We might be angry because they continue to push the boundaries and we haven’t disciplined them yet, so we just get hotter and hotter until we explode.This was a safe space with some small toys (if age appropriate) that we could use to both cool down. Keep in mind that many psychologists don’t recommmend spanking, and it is illegal in many countries. What if there’s something we need to know, like that our 4-year-old was jumping–uninvited–on the neighbor’s trampoline when she fell and broke her wrist?