Freedom From Anxiety

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Unnatural and unnecessary desires, such as for wealth, power, fame or eternal life, are considered “corrosive”, to be avoided like the plague. They deprive us of any chance of feeling that we have enough. There is always more wealth, life or power to be had and so if we want them, we can never be content. Health anxiety is an obsessive preoccupation with minute and normal bodily sensations or differences in composition that leads to loss of sleep, compulsively googling symptoms (all of which will guarantee that you have end-stage Turbo Cancer), and damage to personal relationships, along with the usual accoutrements of anxiety like physiological panic symptoms, elevated breathing, tachycardia, weird and inconvenient sweating, bad skin, graying hair, and a medley of other disasters that will convince you beyond the shadow of a doubt that your internet aided self-diagnosis of Turbo Cancer is real and terminal. Epicurus’s distinctive feature is his insistence that pleasure is the source of all happiness and is the only truly good thing. Hence the modern use of “epicurean” to mean gourmand. But Epicurus was no debauched hedonist. He thought the greatest pleasure was ataraxia: a state of tranquility in which we are free from anxiety. This raises the suspicion of false advertising – freedom from anxiety may be nice, but few would say it is positively pleasurable.

The author explains what health anxiety is (intolerance of uncertainty is a big part of it) and what it is not (secondary gain or Munchausen's syndrome, for example). Concepts throughout the book are illustrated with example scenarios based on clients that the author has worked with in her therapy practice. Also scattered throughout the book are exercises aimed at helping you raise your resilience. We become anxious when we devote energy to pursuing things that are unnatural, unnecessary or both. Such desires are “extravagant”. They are not always bad, but they should only be enjoyed if the opportunity happens to arise, not actively sought out. Sex and fine food fall into this category. “Those who least need extravagance enjoy it most,” the philosopher writes. Believing that only haute cuisine is good enough for you is a recipe for dissatisfaction. And mindfulness, of course. No way to obsess about your imminent demise if you're hanging from the branch and eating the strawberry. Freedom is being able to feel what we are feeling and not catastrophize it with a story, and not escape from it with a behavior, and not avoid it in all the many ways we have to leave ourselves. He speaks to us all, but does not offer a universal prescription for the great life. Freedom from anxiety is good, all other things being equal, but many would say that a willingness to do without tranquility is what has enabled them to push themselves and live fuller lives. Austin ultimately shows that Epicurus is a pretty good guide on the journey of life, but you should let some other thinkers show you around too.

Like Sleepwalkers, We Tune Out of Ourselves

Havening', as in a safe haven, is another way to reduce anxiety and distress associated with negative memories. "It involves a distinctive self-soothing motion with crossed arms, gently but noticeably stroking from shoulders to elbows. There are also versions which involve tapping your collar bone and stroking the palms of your hands and around your eyes." What's 'Thought field therapy'?: Anxiety is controlled by the subconscious mind, so it requires a subconscious re-programming solution.

This is a technique used for relieving anxiety instantly in the moment known as 'freeze frame' - from a school of thought known as 'heart math'. "It is a one-minute technique which requires you to breathe deeply with your hand over your heart and allows a major reduction in feeling of anxiety. It is used by all four armed forces in the US. What's the 'havening' technique?: Using the latest psychological techniques, Paul will help train your mind and body, step-by-step, to control feelings of anxiety and experience deep peace within yourself. What makes health anxiety different from regular anxiety, which will often concern health in the first place, is the overwhelming desire to contradict and demonize doctors, while also annoying them for constant reassurance far beyond what even the best insurance policy would permit. The author helps readers to distinguish between what constitutes a helpful conversation with health professionals and what constitutes harmful reassurance-seeking, which I thought was a useful distinction to make. Sometimes there are reality-based health concerns that need to be dealt with, and the book offers tips on how to take reasonable precautions without overdoing it.

Our Fear of the Feeling of Fear Is an Obstacle to Freedom

There’s a chapter devoted to giving up reassurance-seeking. The author writes, “Trying to get reassurance is like trying to walk across an interpersonal minefield in which the other person has no map.” She explains, “if you give your worry the cookie of reassurance, then you can expect only one outcome: more illness anxiety.” Exposure and response prevention (which is commonly used in the treatment of OCD) is presented as a way to cut down on reassurance-seeking. Still, in a world where even the possibility of missing out inspires fear, freedom from anxiety sounds pretty attractive. How can we get it? Mainly by satisfying the right desires and ignoring the rest. Epicurus thought that desires could be natural or unnatural, and necessary or unnecessary. Our natural and necessary desires are few: healthy food, shelter, clothes, company. As long as we live in a stable, supportive community, they are easy to achieve. So, rather than dreading the future, you can look forward to every day feeling in control and happy. The clarity and concision of Austin’s prose means that she covers many more of the details of Epicurean thought in her 24 short chapters. Anyone seduced by the recent fashion for Stoicism should read her book to see why their biggest contemporary rival offers a better model for living. The Stoics tell us that the only thing that matters is virtue, we should be indifferent when loved ones die, and that the universe works providentially, so ultimately nothing in it is bad. Epicurus was realistic enough to accept that external circumstances can make life intolerable, grief is natural and real, and shit happens.