Why Did No One Tell Me?: How to Protect Heal and Nurture Your Body Through Motherhood

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The book sometimes only scratch the surface of important topics but I kind of understand that given that it is directed to the general population and it is not an academic book. Some of the chapters were very short, they felt like a summary of something larger and yet they had the bullet points summary at the end because that’s just the way the book is formatted. I think it could have been better if the summaries were at the end of each part rather than chapter with the most important things included. The author suggests we identify our values and who we want to be and then analyze our thoughts and behaviors to see if we are going in the right direction. She also talks about identifying our emotions in more detail; instead of saying we are sad, are we really bored, anxious, frustrated? She suggests journaling and writing down our negative emotions to try to make some sense of how and why they appeared which will help us to understand them. One of the most important things to me was the idea of not stopping bad feelings but letting them flow through you while trying to identify what they are and where they came from. This is amazing advice as so many times we are told to stop negative feelings which can be impossible. In Why Did No One Tell Me This?! doulas and reproductive health experts Natalia Hailes and Ashley Spivak answer these questions and more for today’s wellness-focused, intersectional parents-to-be. Drawing on years of experience in their birth doula practice Brilliant Bodies, as well as expert opinions from lactation specialists, gynecologists, therapists, and more, Natalia and Ashley guide readers through the entire process, from the earliest stages of pregnancy through the jungle of postpartum feelings and responsibilities.

Pierwsze, co jednak mnie przeszkadzało mi w tym poradniku to liczba ćwiczeń, którymi jesteśmy zarzucani już od pierwszych stron — to z powodu mojej awersji do poradnikowych form.

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There’s a mix in there. I’ve tried to keep it to everyday tools. I’ve been very careful about that distinction: “This is the educational element of therapy, it’s not therapy.” These are tools that you can put into use today and tomorrow, but the book’s not a therapist. You have a choice how long you spend online, you have a choice about who you follow and who you don’t This is a must read for any human being. This is the best gift you could give yourself or any one of your loved ones. It’s a precious book that holds a special place in my heart (and book shelf ;)) and I will keep my eyes open in case the author decides to release anything else. This was a decent book and I feel like I got out of it what I wanted - a vent for my own insecurities about birth and more information about the play by play on birth and postpartum. Those aspects of it I felt were very informative.

People found that educational aspect so empowering that there was a shift in their ability to manage their mental health day to day. So I would come home and harp on to my husband about how this stuff should be more available, that people shouldn’t have to come to me to find out the basics, and he said: “Well, go on then, make it available. Put it on YouTube or something.” Social media is often blamed for young people’s mental health problems, especially self-esteem and anxiety …Pregnancy and childbirth are full of big questions -- what if my baby is enormous? Will my water break naturally? What even goes into a 'birth plan'? How on earth am I going to keep this child alive once it's here? And where do I turn for advice that will really work for me and my life? Ultimately, wellbeing comes from inward. We have much more power over our own emotions and thoughts than we think, therefore taking responsibility for our own wellbeing allows us to construct new emotional experiences and responses. I read this because I wanted to learn more about mental health in general and specifically anxiety. I liked Dr. Smith’s writing style because she’s realistic and she does not like to be overly positive. She even criticizes some of the common advice given in real life and social media which can be more harmful than helpful. The book is for anyone considering getting pregnant, pregnant, or who has had a baby. This is not ‘another’ baby book it is a book for women about their body! It is also for anyone that works closely with pregnant or new mums but isn’t as such a specialist in the field. In Why Did No One Tell Me This? doulas and reproductive health experts Natalia Hailes and Ash Spivak answer these questions and more for today's wellness-focused, intersectional parents-to-be. Drawing on years of experience in their birth doula practice Brilliant Bodies, Natalia and Ash guide listeners through the entire process, from the earliest stages of pregnancy to the jungle of postpartum feelings and responsibilities.