Chastity tasks: Tasks to assist you in your chastity training

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I may decide to ask during your chastity period for further photos and you will respond within 1 hour. Withholding orgasm- The submissive will not be allowed to have an orgasm for a certain period of time. Consider getting help from another woman or man who is more dominant than you. You play the good leader and she/he plays the strict disciplinarian. You will need to coach at the same time but the tag team approach gives the learner plenty of focus time on his fantasy and reinforces the woman’s leadership and superior role. Training your man with the boot camp approach

Free time (She definitely decides 100% about her own free time and 100% about our free time together. Of course I can suggest, but she decides. I then can decide for the left time by myself) A positive learning experience provides rewards for goals met, praise for active participation and goal achievement. If you want your man to do the laundry to your standard, joyfully invite him to see how you do it. Explain what you are thinking as you go and have him repeat what you did giving him only positive reinforcement for what he is doing right and showing him what he needs to relearn. The goal is to learn how to do the laundry. Once he does give him affection and praise. Training your man by achievable learning goals and rewards It is similar in our FLR. My wife also wants a man who is something she can outwardly be proud of. But she lets me be the man in the house I want to be there: a beta male, submissive and also a bit masochistic. When you get a task, you have five days to finish it. We suggest you do it as soon as you can, but if you can't, for any reason, know that you have five whole days before the task times out, and gets marked as failed.We will agree on an estimated time you will spend in chastity. If you’re new to this one or two weeks might be a good start. If you’re experienced we set the preferred limit higher. By way of history, the first inclination of something different was when it came to sex. She wanted to be on top. She said that she found it easier to get aroused. There was a fair bit of experimenting early in the marriage where I would cum before her and go soft and she would be left unsatisfied. She said she wanted us to cum together but I would cum early. We went through a period where she was frustrated and then through discussion we agreed that I would hold off and giver her time to orgasm. But then having held off I couldn’t immediately cum and then I would get frustrated. We also talked through other aspects of sex were she indicated that often she felt obligated to just give me sex so I would not get grumpy or obligated to perform and fake orgasm so then proceed to my orgasm. I really had this desire to look after her and not put pressure on her and the end result of these discussions was that she would initiate sex. I was not to ask or talk about it or beg or plead. I would try to get her in the mood by making sure the house was clean and the chores all done. Give her flowers and so on. Over time, sex is only when she wants it and I never orgasm inside her. I get to masturbate about once a month but sometimes she will make me abstain for several months.

I will also adhere to any preference you have to which body lotion or perfume I use after I bathe/shower. If I broke a rule and knew that I disappointed my Dominant, I would need to have a discussion about what happened, why I shouldn’t break the rule, why the punishment happened, and that I am still loved and cared for. I made a bad choice, I am not a bad girl. While it looks different than post-playtime aftercare, that bit of reassurance and reconnection allows me to have time to improve and remember he is still there for me. Rewards Housework (There are things she wants to do herself, I have to do the rest. There are exceptions, for example if there is simply not enough time, then she does it herself. No problem as long as it is justified and rare.). BDSM contracts are a pretty important part of the relationship. Both parties need to bring something to the relationship to make their counterpart the best version of themselves. The contract outlines what the Dominant/submissive will be responsible for. They are meant to protect both people from hurt feelings and unrealistic expectations. They can include anything you want, really. And they can and should include any rules and consequences for rule breaking. These can be verbal or written out, but the most important part of the contract is communication. This is something that is ongoing throughout the duration of the relationship. DisciplineGenerally what you want your man to learn in your female led relationship and what he wants to learn are very different. You want him to learn to overcome his bad habits, work independently, find fulfillment in growing, gain confidence in your leadership and participate as your supportive follower. He want to learn how to serve your body, obey your commands, please you sexually, humble himself and learn what it is like to surrender. Because of the difference and size of the task at hand you must choose your targets. In management 101, when faced with a large number of tasks you must prioritize them, take the top ten and do as many as you can. Delegate where you can and just maintain a list of the ones that don’t get done. There is, however, the added complication of keeping both of you motivated.

All very good information, but what about her bad habits? She’s human and she’ll have them too. Will she be able to “man up” and honestly say she may not be the best at handling money for example? Or will she just not say anything and head to the casino for a gambling spree? The latter is more likely – and on that one point the whole FLR plan falls apart. Partners need to be well aware of each other’s capabilities and the best person for handling each task. It still may end up with him doing household chores, but at least he is an equal partner instead of a slave. He doesn’t have to lose his self respect. Taking Away Privileges- The Dominant takes away things that the sub loves. This could be something small like taking away television time to something more extreme, not being allowed to get on social media for a certain period of time. Enable this feature now and start verifying your task completions! You'll have a whole new experience! Speech Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to talk to the Dominant. For me, this would be a very painful punishment. I need a voice and to be unable to speak to him would be very painful. Punishments are the other side of the coin. You’ve agreed to terms. But say you are feeling slightly bratty or maybe you forget (as a sub) what you have agreed to. There are consequences for these behaviors. Maybe it’s early in the relationship and you are given a task. As a sub, your Dom may require proof that you have completed the task when you are out of his presence. Failure to complete the task will result in punishment.

Of course, you won't be doing all the tasks. You let us know what you like, what you don't like, what toys you have, and we'll select your tasks based on this. Remember, you can also write an introduction about yourself ( more about introductions here), so if you're with a human keyholder, they can more clearly see what you would like to get out of your chastity sessions. Whips- This group includes regular whips, riding crops, and floggers. Impact from these types of instruments spread the strike out. Sitting in a corner- Submissive sits in the corner of the room to have quiet reflection on the rule breaking. This should not be for an undetermined amount of time. Dominants should be careful to tow the line between correction and abuse. To show how well you are doing, we display your verified/completed task ratio in a 30-day rolling window. Your goal should be to reach and keep this ratio above 60%—this still gives you the opportunity to miss out on verification for some tasks where you simply can't make a proof photo or video. Can you be better than the average? Sure you can! On average, our users only finish two thirds of the tasks they get, the rest get declined. If you do better that this, your keyholder might just get to like you a little more. ;)