Perfection Kills

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Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.” — Vince Lombardi The losses will still feel bad, but the lessons will be helpful. And they won’t be as stark if you are celebrating lots of wins along the way. I have to say that I’ve always believed perfectionism is more of a disease than a quality. I do try to go with the flow, but I can’t let go.” — Rowan Atkinson Accept the losses knowing they will fade. Celebrate the wins knowing that is what you will cherish more over the long term.

People often confuse perfection with excellence. The pursuit of excellence is a healthy striving to be outstanding or above average. It promotes personal growth and improvement. But perfectionists don’t expect just excellence; they have such painfully high standards that anything short of perfect is intolerable. Unlike seeking excellence, perfectionism is a narrow, intolerant expectation that we will never make mistakes or have any imperfections.” – Sharon MartinThe mistake many of us make, however, is to simply look at the results. If everything turned out well, then we did a good job. If they didn’t, then we did a bad job. As a perfectionist, you are often a people pleaser, wanting others to think highly of you. With your all-or-nothing thinking, you see yourself as “good” if people like you and “bad” if they don’t. And with people pleasing comes a lot of difficulty making decisions and avoiding important conversations, for fear that you’ll upset someone else. As such, your work is often crippled. 6. You’re highly critical of others. Celebrating success more intentionally can help us to understand that things are, in generally, probably going a lot better than we think. You are having more wins along the way, you simply minimize them. Mind Your Mind - Don’t let your thoughts go unattended. Watch your self-talk and see if your thoughts are giving you space or creating constriction.

That there is an effective use of keyboards or studio effects throughout ‘Too Far Gone’ should not be ignored either, there modern aural approach offers a further dichotomy to the song’s theme and will be noticeable and relevant elsewhere on songs. As are some of the vocal harmonies applied. Both are techniques prevalent in mainstream pop much, albeit more so sampling and digital voice tunings, but they keep Patlansky concurrent musically. Vocally we can hear as evidence of this ‘Mayday’. While ostensibly about the rat race and the possibility of losing a loved one by pursuing it, and playing out like 60s girl band ballad with a man’s deep croon fronting it, it’s the repeated chorus line of “Mayday” akin to the nursery rhyme lullabies of modern R ’n’ B that acts as ear worm. This doesn’t negate the song however, for the most part it is a slow 12 bar blues with sweet guitar phrases along the way, with lyrical solo of Hawaiian steel textures and sparkly turns of phrase. Perfectionism can be confusing; it affects different people in different ways. But what we all have in common is that perfectionism can get in the way of living our lives to the fullest. It is the quest to be perfect or without flaws. It means we set impossibly high standards for ourselves and sometimes for others, and we believe that we should achieve our goals effortlessly and never make mistakes, have flaws, or be disagreeable. We consider anything less than perfect unacceptable and feel distressed when people (ourselves and others) don’t live up to our expectations. But because our standards are unrealistic and unattainable, even with hard work, perfectionism is a losing proposition. It ultimately makes us feel worse rather than better.” – Sharon Martin This switch isn’t going to be easy. You start by recognizing that imperfection abounds, it’s not the end of life, and it’s getting in your way. Look at the people around you, the ones you love, and know they are not perfect, and you wouldn’t feel the same way about them if they were.Striving for perfection out of the gate adds more obstacles to the path than it eliminates; ultimately, striving ever closer to perfection is a potentially an infinite goal. However, striving for great… then testing, iterating, and continually improving towards perfection allows for testing of assumptions, gathering data, and progress.” - Quote: Dan Patlansky’s follow up to his impressive and musically gigantic Introvertigo is the contemplation of exactness, the search not for the flawed genius and the love of slight blemish on the subject’s skin which gives anything character and the appeal of the fully rounded, a state of mind that can drive us round the bend as we look upon something with scrutiny and deliberation. Perfection doesn’t just kill, it saps all the endeavour out of the spontaneous and the desire for the naturally impulsive, to learn about mistakes and grow as a human being.

Host objects have no rules” doesn’t apply either. This is native objects we’re dealing with, and semantics of native objects are very well defined in those same ECMA-262 specifications. What this means in practice is that unless we’re dealing with faulty implementations, adding method bind to Function.prototype should allow us to add it. There’s no uncertainty about Function.prototype throwing error on extension, or silently ignoring our command (after all, the spec says: “The initial value of the [[Extensible]] internal property of the Function prototype object is true”). Ditto for other objects.What’s wrong with wanting something to be perfect? Nothing, unless it’s leading to your failure. And that is exactly what can happen to perfectionists. Well, it looks like properly extending native objects — unlike host ones — is actually not all that bad. This is of course considering that we're talking about standard objects and methods. Extending native built-ins with custom methods immediately makes "collision" problem apparent. It violates "don't modify objects you don't own" principle, and makes code not future-proof. Downsides Positive and negative perfectionism and their relationship with anxiety and depression in Iranian school students – PMC (nih.gov) Perfectionism is extremely stressful because you’re constantly worrying about making everything perfect. Nothing is ever good enough, and that mindset robs you of ever feeling satisfied and fulfilled from your work. 3. You don’t take risks. Perfectionists tend to screen out positive options, almost always focusing on the negative. Perfectionists sense a host of “shoulds” careening through their mind most of the time. Perfectionists adversely compare themselves to others and make many wrong assumptions, imagining that they can read minds and that others can read their minds. There are core beliefs of not being okay, not being valuable or lovable. The result is a lot of spinning wheels and wasted time and energy.” – Ellen Bowers