Between: A guide for parents of eight to thirteen-year-olds

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The following are some of the most common anxieties tweens experience before the move to a new school, according to research: Ensure rules are enforced, and if they are broken, there are consequences. Don’t engage in empty threats.

Between: A guide for parents of eight to thirteen-year-olds Between: A guide for parents of eight to thirteen-year-olds

Physical punishment is not a necessary part of disciplining children and can be harmful to the wellbeing of both child and parent.’ The CEO of NSPCC, Peter Wanless, doesn’t agree with the criticism that this is ‘new age dogma’ that will lead to a ‘snooping’ culture. Ignore – sometimes just ignoring the bad behaviour, or saying something like ‘you know that’s unacceptable, and I’m not going to respond to it’, can be powerful We were still children, for all that we thought we weren’t. We were in that in- between place, the twilight between childish things and grown- up things.’ Lost Boy: The True Story of Captain Hook , Christina Henry Why Your Baby's Sleep Matters (Pinter & Martin Why It Matters 1)". Pinter & Martin Publishers . Retrieved 19 April 2016.Disciple: “ a follower of the doctrines of a teacher or a school of thought” from Latin discipulus pupil and discere to learn Watch Sarah chatting about the contents of her new book ‘Because I Said So’ on Good Morning Britain below: Try to buy any uniform needed several weeks before the start of term, so that your tween can wear it around the house, including new shoes (blisters in the first week aren’t fun). If they must wear a tie as part of their new uniform, keep practising at home until they are a pro at tying it.

Between: A guide for parents of eight to thirteen-year-olds

I read ‘The Book you wish your parents had read’ beforehand and I think they go together perfectly. We need to understand our own tween (8-13) history, our own parents style (authoritarian or authoritative) , our automatic reactions based on learned behaviour and figure out what we would like to change about our tween years, before we start parenting our own tweens.Gentle parenting is about creating the generation of the future. A future where adults respect not only themselves, but everything and everybody else around them. A future where happiness means so much more than the house you live in, the car on the drive and the label in your clothes. A future where violence is dramatically reduced, where differing opinions and beliefs are not only respected but valued because adults are confident enough in their own beliefs to not have to belittle those of others that differ. A future where discipline does not involve inflicting physical harm and pain, exclusion, shame and guilt on some of the most vulnerable members of society. In my opinion none of these are effective forms of discipline. They all rely on inflicting physical or emotional pain, through shame and exclusion. How does a child learn how to behave in a better manner if they are not shown what to do, if they have nothing and nobody good to model or they do not understand what they did wrong, or what they should have done instead? Chapter 13 is the final chapter, which is no coincidence. It feels right to leave you at the age when your child becomes a true teenager – the official end of the tween years. Parting is the theme of this chapter: how to let go and give your child wings to fly (especially when you feel like holding on tight) is something many struggle with. How much independence is too much, or too little? And how do you cope with your own feelings as your child reaches towards looming adulthood. Although this book is about your tween, it is also about you as a parent, and it feels fitting to end with a chapter that concerns you as much as your child. After all, you will always be standing at one end of that bridge, watching with pride as your child continues their journey through the in between, but ready and waiting with open arms should they need to return to you again. In most cases misbehaviour is a cry for help. It shows us that all is not well in the child’s world. In effect most of the behaviour control methods in use in society today (the ones we usually describe as ‘discipline’ but more appropriately fit the definition of ‘punishment’) punish the child for having a problem, rather than trying to help them solve it. Do the problems disappear just because a punishment has been administered? Of course not, although the vocalisation or physical manifestations of them may. The problem remains, ready to rise on another day, like a festering wound covered with a fresh bandage. Why not help children to solve their problems? Surely then we are better teachers? Sarah is a mother of four young adults. After graduating with an honors degree in Psychology; she embarked on a career in Pharmaceutical Research and Development. After she became pregnant with her first child, Sarah retrained as an Antenatal Teacher, Hypnotherapist, Infant Massage Instructor and Doula. Since 2005, she has worked with thousands of families, providing expert advice and support.

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For too long parenting has been viewed as a battle. A battle for control between parent and child. Some parenting methods give all control to the children, for fear of the little tyrants becoming unmanageable monsters as they grow. Other methods give children far too much control, with parents scared to discipline when necessary, for fear of upsetting their delicate offspring. Gentle parenting is all about finding a balance of control, giving children just enough, at a time when they can handle it, with parents enforcing appropriate boundaries and limits. Gentle parenting is about being ever mindful of the long term effects of a parent’s actions as well as the immediate needs of safety and expectations of society. This section of a biography of a living person does not include any references or sources. Please help by adding reliable sources. Contentious material about living people that is unsourced or poorly sourced must be removed immediately.Tiger parenting, French parenting, helicopter parenting, free range parenting, old fashioned parenting. The twenty first century has seen a tremendous surge in new trends of parenting styles. Why, might you ask, is there room for another one? In 1966 Psychologist Diana Baumrind coined her Parenting Typology, a description of three distinct parenting styles. Authoritarian, Authoritative and Permissive. Baumrind was particularly interested in two facets of parenting behaviour, first the demand parents placed on children in terms of what they expected of them and their behaviour and secondly the responsiveness the parents showed to the children which indicated how in tune, and responsive to, the child’s needs the parents were.

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Speaking of societal expectations, gentle parents understand that many of the beliefs society holds about the behaviour of children, at any age, are unrealistic. Much of what we know about children comes from outdated personal opinion. Many of today’s common parenting practices are not only at odds with the needs of children in the present moment, but they may possibly inhibit their development in the future. Gentle parents aren’t afraid to question commonly held wisdom, no matter who it is coming from. Gentle parents aren’t afraid to be an advocate for their child even when their behaviour is frowned upon by the mainstream. Gentle parents have a close connection to their children which allows the children to feel safe, respected and valued. In turn this nurturing environment raises confident, free thinking adults. As the anthropologist Margaret Mead says, never underestimate the difference a small group of committed individuals can make. What if the world embraced the notion of gentle parenting, would it change the world? I think it might just do!Of course, the above tips have focused solely on helping your tween to cope with the transition to a new school, but it’s import- ant not to forget what a big experience it is for you, too. Try to attend any new parents’ information evenings and take advantage of offers to chat with form tutors before, or soon after, your tween starts school. Most schools will run a parents’ evening towards the end of the first term, which will give you an opportunity to meet your tween’s teachers and hear about how they are settling in. I think one of the hardest things about being a parent or carer to a tween at secondary school is having far less involvement with school than you had previously. It feels strange not knowing their teachers well or what room they will be in at any given time. You do get used to the change, but it can often take parents longer than tweens to feel at peace with the transition. There’s loads of how to’s for pregnancy, babies and toddlers but there isn’t much for this age and it’s hard. Really hard. Sarah has authored 14 parenting books, translated into over 30 languages, which have sold over half a million copies. She is currently writing her 15th.