About this deal
When someone comes out for the first time, or early on in the aftermath of coming out, there’s a lot of uncertainty and, well, fear, when it comes to labels.
It was not altogether unpleasant, just different, as any heterosexual crossdresser would feel I suppose, at least one who had not ever come to terms with their identity. I was so happy when I found this because sometimes I feel like I’m alone in this, and it’s almost like I’ve written it myself with how similarly I feel about everything.If you have a difficult time believing him about *this* please know that this is understandable and expected. For men, the fantasy combines the roles of a dominant woman or man who holds power over the “naughty boy. Conversations about what happens in the bedroom, whether it is about wardrobe or anything else can happen before, during, and after intimacy. Although obvious, it bears stating: The preponderance of people who are feminine are women, not all – The majority of masculine people are men, not all. I am going to be as honest and as gentle as I can in this little (well, it’s not little at all) list as I can be.
I am not here to condone or encourage this, but I can tell you I absolutely understand wanting to do so.In my experience, decades of the act of keeping my cross gender thoughts and behaviors compartmentalized and closeted, living a double life, where what was not healthy. The fetishistic side of men wearing lingerie has been a staple for decades and it will be for a very, very, very long time.
Obviously I don’t know exactly what he is looking at online, but it might not necessarily for sexual stimulation. This subreddit is mainly centered around sharing photos of ourselves, but it isn't a beauty contest, it's a community. A huge part of their partner’s life has been kept secret from them for years, and it forces you to re-evaluate everything. I crossdressed on and off for quite some time and after college, when I started working, I completely stopped to crossdress.Acknowledging that I have a sexual aversion to masculinity and that, even as I find her ‘tomboyishness’ sexy, I’d have a difficult time if my wife became butch and wanted to grow facial hair, doesn’t make me transphobic or homophobic. But time and again, I would really feel bad about my crossdressing and then throw out all the clothes and feminine stuffs that I had brought and try to live a normal life.
Infidelity, which encompasses lying and betrayal, withholding affection or sex without a clear statement of why… which constitutes abuse. If you’re a man and a secret crossdresser reading this and you can figure that out, own it, look beyond your needs for a moment and express sincere regret for the pain and lack of assuredness your wife feels. You could be in for a lot of fun, but be prepared he might get a bit defensive about his masculinity, it’s tough being a man!And from the crossdresser’s side, we’ve been raised in a society where for the most part what we do has been seen as freakish and disgusting and immoral, and so hiding it seems like the only option.