When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

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Letting go isn’t just a last resort but a powerful practice in reclaiming your life. By releasing what no longer serves you, whether it’s thoughts, things, or relationships, you create space for growth and nourishment. Dreams, with their grandeur and promise, can be both aspirational and daunting. This is about you, the dreamer, whether you’re just embarking on your journey, standing at the crossroads of change, or gathering the courage to share the fruits of your lifelong passion with the world. In the journey of life, there’s a chance that you’ve veered off course, letting societal expectations and opinions override your instincts. This deviation isn’t your fault, rather it’s a consequence of conditioning that started when you were young. Remember the kid who fearlessly wore clothes that made them smile, acted on ideas without second thoughts, or expressed hunger without guilt? Gradually, societal norms and expectations robbed you of that innate sense of self. You began to doubt your reflection in the mirror, base your clothing choices on hiding your perceived flaws, and question your hunger cues. This disconnect from your own instincts creates a sense of self-doubt, breeding a cycle of overcorrection and self-sabotage. Everything that you were clasping so tightly to was a way in which you were shielding yourself from these emotions, many of which you’d buried so deep inside, you assumed they were gone forever. Throughout our lives, we often find ourselves tethered to situations, objects, thoughts, and even people that may no longer serve us, waiting for an external force to untangle us from these bonds. This waiting game leaves us lingering in uncertainty, sometimes causing us to feel devastated when the severance finally happens. Yet, we tend to view letting go as a last resort, something we’ll do only when the world leaves us no choice, when it becomes abundantly clear that something isn’t meant for us.

The author of this book, Brianna Wiest, is substantially a natural writer in writing self-help and self-improvement books. Through writing the international best-selling titles such as "101 Essays That Change The Way You Think" and "The Mountain Is You”, she has been an icon in giving out pure advice, inspirational thoughts, words of motivation and a feeling of comfort to her readers.

For the moments you feel the need to be perfect:

When you imagine all of the possible outcomes for your life, the negative options probably seem more real than the positive ones. This is because of negativity bias, which is where we are inclined to believe that bad things are more real than good things, because we're more afraid of them. The third thought pattern is that people often feel responsible for every problem around them. Maybe you constantly find yourself in a spiral of worry over issues you have little control over. It’s crucial to understand that not every problem within your proximity is your cross to bear. As an actionable step, start distinguishing between problems within your sphere of influence and those that are beyond it. This will free you from unnecessary worries and anxieties. But what if you could view letting go in a different light? The truth is that it’s not a single momentous event, but a practice, a skill to be honed. Just as you’d train for a marathon by first running shorter distances, you can learn to let go by starting with the smaller things. This could mean releasing a passing thought, or deciding not to engage in an insignificant argument. It might involve parting with objects that merely remind you of a bygone era or releasing the expectations you place on others to live according to your narratives. It is your job to realize that you are the master of your fate, and that you are accepting the love you think you're worthy of. It can begin with a one-time event—typically some form of sudden loss that disrupts our projection of what the future might be. However, the true work of healing is allowing that disruption to wake us from a deep state of unconsciousness, to release the personas we adapted into and begin consciously piecing together the full truth of who we were meant to be.

Love is soul work. Love can be met and joined with attraction and infatuation and all of that, but love will not fade when those things do. You can choose to close your heart to love, and run away, and avoid it for as long as you can in every way you can think of but if it was really, truly, the other-worldly, almost supernatural kind of love that we can only hope to be graced with at least once in this life experience, it will not leave you. You can love many people, but at the end of the day, the love you need to choose is the love that, even if you close your heart to, still moves you. The love you still write about. The love you can’t face. The love you’re still not okay with losing, that you’re angry about; the love that uprooted your life and contorted your being. The love you ran away from because it showed you who you are without the guise of worth given from someone else. This is love because these are all signs that you are closing your heart and to be doing so, there has to be something going through you for you to be able to close off. Real love will be the love you realize that remains even after you close your heart to it, because it sustains itself. It drives you forward. It brings up all the unhealed parts of you that you have to reconcile.” As a reader, the part where the author had captivated my mind and soul was through this: “ When you are ready, you will step behind it.”, which fore by means that whenever you feel angry, sad, anxious, or other negative emotions that tries to eat you up alive, they are just disguised as a sign for you to wake up. In other words, it is a challenge and a demand for you to repeat this process until you notice that you are growing lighter. Not only that, it also makes you realize that even though you cannot control the passage of time, you can somehow change your story.Have you ever experienced a loss or disruption so powerful it shook your perception of the future? Such instances, while painful, often serve as a wake-up call, ushering us into a journey of healing and self-discovery. What if this healing process was less about repairing what’s broken and more about uncovering the most authentic version of ourselves? Next, tune in to your basic needs: hunger, thirst, tiredness. Take note of them and respond accordingly. This will reestablish your connection with your most fundamental instincts. It can begin with a one-time event — typically some form of sudden loss that disrupts our projection of what the future might be. However, the true work of healing is allowing that disruption to wake us from a deep state of unconsciousness, to release the personas we adapted into, and begin consciously piecing together the full truth of who we were meant to be. Struggling to stay in the comfort of the familiar, we often don blinders, ignoring the paths opening before us. Put yourself in the shoes of a hiker. You might’ve set off on a path, content with the route you’ve chosen. But if you’re constantly glancing at the map, doubting your direction, you’re likely on the wrong trail. It’s when you’re embracing the journey, absorbing the beauty around you, that you’re on the right path.

With the exception of an abrupt and sudden loss of someone you love or the closure of a company you assumed would be around forever, for example, almost anything we lose in life has often been foreshadowed for a very In this summary, we invite you on a journey of exploration and transformation, inspired by the understanding that healing isn’t a one-time event. The aim is to provide insights and practical steps that encourage you to consciously piece together the full truth of who you were meant to be. By the end, you’ll be equipped with the tools to better understand and navigate life’s complexities. You’ll be able to foster deeper connections, dream fearlessly, and adapt gracefully to change.

For anyone who has lost their hope…

Ich finde in ihren Büchern Bestätigung. Hoffnung. Mut. Lebensweisheiten. Denkanstöße. Neue Perspektiven. Und ich denke auch, dass das die Absichten der Bücher sind. Practical Guidance: Throughout the book, Wiest provides practical guidance and actionable steps to facilitate the healing process. She offers exercises, prompts, and reflective questions that enable readers to apply the concepts to their own lives. This makes the book not only inspirational but also a useful tool for personal development. The experiences that catalyze healing are not trying to prompt us to simply recover from a blow to the ego, but for the first time, in many cases, to recognize our ego at all. It is a moment of reconciliation where we are asked to realize that, in the words of Michael Murphy, a greater life is pressing to be born. When we are able to validate, accept and process our own human experience independent of anyone else, something magical occurs. We begin reconnecting with our true desires, heeding our subtlest instincts, and cease sabotaging our inspired thoughts and feelings. Through this, we tend to usher in a serendipitous unfolding of events. Over time, we begin to recognize that there is a common thread carrying us through each one of these experiences, which is our soul’s silent guidance:ever-present, and always leading us just beyond what we can see in real time.