How to Be Love(d): Simple Truths for Going Easier on Yourself, Embracing Imperfection & Loving Your Way to a Better Life

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The last book on love you’ll ever need. Explore simple truths for going easier on yourself, embracing imperfections and loving your way to a better life through insightful stories and down-to-earth advice from artist and international best-selling author of Unlearn , Humble The Poet. We judge because we’re insecure and we’re insecure because we judge. The more we focus on loving others without judging them, the easier it’ll be to love ourselves the same— that’s the relationship between loving ourselves and loving others. The more we realize that our judgments of others relate to our judgments of ourselves, the more we can start breaking the pattern.

Make time to improve your sex life: Much like the rest of your relationship, sex has to get better over time, not worse. Thinking in abundance: ‘I love and am loved, and there’s plenty to go around,’ helps make that true. We always have control over our attitudes and efforts.Confidence is quiet and calm; it’s the act of being comfortable in your own skin, despite any flaws. Real confidence doesn’t come from being noticed, it comes from being better. Real confidence is modelling ongoing learning. With his tattoos, beard, head wrap, and silly smile, Humble commands attention. He stimulates audiences with ideas that challenge conventional wisdom and go against the grain, with dynamic live sets that shake conventions and minds at the same time. In this refreshing take on a self-help book, Kanwer Singh, professionally known as Humble the Poet, breaks down the painful truth that we often treat others better than we treat ourselves. “Unlearn: 101 Simple Truths for a Better Life” offers a unique and authentic perspective on how to live a fulfilling life. Instead of the usual clichés, Humble the Poet delves deep into the complexities of relationships, both with others and with ourselves. The author's rare perspective as a South Asian male discussing love adds a refreshing and valuable voice to the conversation.

If you want more love in your life, then start loving more. The act of love is what’s going to open us up to the feelings of love. We can’t control how much love we receive or experience from others, but we can completely control how much love we share and send out into the world. With short chapters filled with insight, advice, and personal anecdotes from Humble's own journey, this book is a guide to self-love that helps clarify your path inward toward the inherent love and value that is within each of us. Throw away old ideas that prevent you from realizing the love you've always had within you. Instead of earning more, achieving more, and gaining more attention, clear pathways for love to enter and flourish. It’s just that the choices we make, informed by all the things we’ve been taught and shown, can often make us forget that. Forgetting that we are the source of love has us looking everywhere else but the one place where love is experienced the most, within.’Others who struggle with confidence may struggle to be around you, but that can’t be a concern of yours. Modelling confidence can inspire them to pursue the same journey.

All authentic connections are created through vulnerability. So, it’s really important to understand that if you want to connect with another person, you will have to be vulnerable. But it’s the same thing if we want to be vulnerable with ourselves. But love, like happiness, isn’t a destination; it’s a path. Once you start “doing” love instead of chasing it down, you’ll realize that it’s everywhere around you. The last book on love you'll ever need. Explore simple truths for going easier on yourself, embracing imperfections and loving your way to a better life through insightful stories and down-to-earth advice from artist and international best-selling author of Unlearn, Humble The Poet.

Don’t test each other: Save the tests for the classroom; be open and clear with the love in your life. Big L love is what you should aim for in your relationships with yourself, your family, and your partner. But Big L love is no “happily ever after.” It’s more of a “happily continuing to work on it.” Big L love takes regular, deliberate, and ongoing effort to sustain. Share experiences: Feeding the relationship new shared experiences will strengthen what you have between each other. He has performed at concerts and festivals, including Lollapalooza, and has been featured in major media including The New York Times, BuzzFeed, Vogue, Rolling Stone, and Huffington Post. That’s because these tough activities promote attention and approval toward myself, building my self-respect, which will always be a stronger foundation than my self-esteem. Look to how can you impress yourself more, so you spend less time chasing admiration and acceptance from others?

The analogy I like to use is that love is a breeze, and the work that we have to do isn’t to find the breeze, but rather open our sails. The work that we need to do is to learn how to receive love and accept it more. Loneliness isn’t being by yourself, loneliness is not enjoying your own company, or being unable to be by yourself. It’s important to learn to enjoy your own company actively in the same way that you try to develop love for somebody else. Share your interests, explore your interests, take yourself out on a date.We all want love, everything we do is in pursuit of that love, but that journey has gotten difficult and complicated. We’re programmed to seek love outside of ourselves, and we’re trained to love as something to earn, or a destination to reach; that programming blinds us to the simple truth that we are beautiful, eternal sources of love, and to BE LOVED is to BE LOVE. It’s important to distinguish the two because you don’t want to mistake one for the other. Small L love is like a delicious little treat. It’s all about pleasure and immediate gratification and it doesn’t take a lot of effort to acquire. But Big L love is the nutritious meal that everyone is hungry for. It’s the kind of love that feels deep and life-changing, and that gives you peace and connection. Forgive: Accept your partner with love and make space for them to make mistakes and have flaws, knowing they’ll do the same for us.