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Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2021-10-09 11:07:03 Associated-names Hardy, Janet W Boxid IA40257202 Camera USB PTP Class Camera Collection_set printdisabled External-identifier Three decades ago, this book and its companion volume "The New Topping Book" began teaching tens of thousands of people the joyous arts of BDSM topping and bottoming - not just "how-to," but "why-to"... the insider details of emotional support and ethical interaction during kinky play. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book and New Topping Book give even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular player! What the experts are saying "The only way I can think of to learn more about bottming than Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy teach you in [The New Bottoming Book] is to go out and bottom for yourself." - William A. Henkin, Ph.D., co-author, Consensual Sadomasochism When Someone You Love Is Kinky written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-08-02 with Psychology categories. Pretty much everything in this book is common sense and obvious to me. There are some good insights or well-put thoughts, but an overwhelming majority of the book is filler content and repetition. Bdsm 101 written by Rev. Jen and has been published by Skyhorse this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2013-07-01 with Health & Fitness categories.

The authors don't try to railroad the reader down one particular road; rather, they give you the tools to empower yourself and become confident enough to actually dive into play without excess worries or insecurities. This sort of comforting, non-judgemental attitude can be surprisingly rare in the BDSM community. It's super readable, very inclusive of different styles and intensities of play, and I think it's not only a good primer but a good refresher for more experienced players. There was also a lot missing in regards to navigating ethics, trauma, and joy for/with fat folks and disabled folks — for example, how might a person’s ability to engage in normative D/S actions like kneeling and spanking be different based on size or ability?, or how might the impact of shame and punishment around movement differently affect fat and/or disabled folks? I would have liked to see Janet and Dossie offer play alternatives for folks navigating these intersections, and provide a more sophisticated analysis of cultural and bodily barriers to BDSM. This trend obtains throughout the volume; it's overall a better guide if you are a top looking for help in understanding what your bottom gets out of a scene.Although they did not achieve 100% success, it was evident to me that the authors attempted to write this book in a manner that was part educational and entertaining. Instead of just stating facts, the authors give us glimpses into their personal lives by sharing stories of experiences they and others in the lifestyle have had. They don't sugarcoat things and tell it how it is! All in all, I find the book very basic in it's explaining what bottoming is and how to start on that path. Certainly recommended for the novice this book can help shed the nervousness and dispel the fantasy of play. People are attracted to playing in their shadows because it is very hot, intriguing, sexy. Please don’t think that we are robots doomed to reenact the dysfunctions of our childhoods over and over without release, but rather that we seek out opportunities to struggle with these conflicts so that we have a chance to make the story come out differently. If we let these desires drive us without our awareness, they may manifest in destructive ways." This was a solid intro book to topping/dom dynamics — accessible writing, encouraging and non-judgemental language, a decent amount of nuance. It feels like Dossie and Janet are your kinky and occasionally problematic white lady aunties loud-whispering secrets to you in a movie theatre while making sure you’re on your shit with safer sex.

Many, many people have sexual interests or practices that are in some way unusual. These people may enjoy bondage or spanking, erotic role-playing, dressing in special clothes that turn them on, or a host of other activities that place them outside the sexual mainstream. Your mechanic might have an alternative sexuality, or your librarian, or your kids' teacher, or your boss.... If someone you love has a sexual kink, or if you suspect that she may, and you want to know more about what that means to her and how you can deal with what it means to you, this book is for you. "When Someone You Love Is Kinky will do more for family values than anything the right wing ever dreamed up, because it lets people communicate and love and respect each other on the basis of who they really are. A wonderful contribution twoards a more sex-positive culture." - Dr. Carol Queen, author, Real Live Nude Girl "Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt, both wise and compassionate women, and both players in the world of kink, welcome the reader gently into that world and answer everything anyone might have wanted to ask but was really afraid to find out." - Isadora Alman, syndicated sex and relationship columnistOcr tesseract 5.0.0-beta-20210815 Ocr_detected_lang en Ocr_detected_lang_conf 1.0000 Ocr_detected_script Latin Ocr_detected_script_conf 0.9781 Ocr_module_version 0.0.13 Ocr_parameters -l eng Old_pallet IA-WL-1200066 Openlibrary_edition I feel my initial idea that the desire for such practices is connected to mental damage or trauma was right. That issue is reinforced by constant recaps of writer's personal accounts of public play sessions, which are, frankly, of very little interest and importance and are brought up too often.

preconceptions you may have about "submissives" and the BDSM Scene. So by all means its a good starting point. This was a fairly comprehensive beginners' guide. It was well written, lively, and approachable. All good things. If it has a strength, it is that the authors, Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, are very concerned with making sure that there is something useful for any new or would-be top who reads this book. The trade-off is that this is an extremely generalist book that is not going to be fully applicable to individual circumstances. including the way I recommended here not long ago, bridging the gap between fantasy and reality and finding a Top that will give you what you need and want. There is a big section on meeting someone online via chat rooms, mailing lists and/or Internet newsgroups and how to convert from "cyber" to "real-time," and dealing with the fact that their "reality" may not match yours. I skipped some parts, mostly irrelevant Interludes and many parts of the ending which for some reason delved into spiritualism and dragged our old boy Jung into it. The book was inclusive and had some interesting views regarding spirituality and BDSM that I haven't seen in my other research.

The Dominance Playbook written by Anton Fulmen and has been published by Greenery Press (CA) this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2019-04 with Psychology categories. There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of relationships, etc. It's a very "free to be you and me as long as you're cool with everything" attitude. I think the reason they are so popular is because there really aren't very many good non-fiction books out there about these issues. For millennia, seekers have used physical and emotional extremes to achieve transcendence and exaltation. Today, many BDSM and leather practitioners are discovering the potential of SM practice to reach personal, interpersonal and spiritual goals. In Radical Ecstasy, bestselling BDSM/sexuality authors Easton and Hardy document their own journeys into the transcendent realm of kink. With their trademark frankness and humor, they share their own stories and philosophies. They also share techniques that have worked for them - techniques which combine tantric breathing, visualization and movement with a combined half-century of BDSM experience - to create states of transcendence during solo and partnered sexual and BDSM practice. As outrageously revolutionary as any sex book published in the last decade, Radical Ecstasy sets the stage for the new millennium in BDSM and sacred-sex practices - a "must" for any kink, tantra, pagan or sacred-sex practitioner. "Amazingly mindful exploration of that which cannot be easily put into words... the ecstatic experience from sex to sadomasochism, from trance to intuition to archetypes and spiritual awakening. Totally real and personal. Not a 'how to' but a nurturing 'can do' book." - Fakir Musafar, father of the modern primitive movement. "Progressive, deliciously honest, and HOT HOT HOT! Dossie and Janet ask difficult questions about the nature of sex, intimacy and ecstasy, then they actually manage to answer the questions, plus turn us on when they do. These two erotically gifted women have a way with words - and sex. They raise the bar on erotic writing and sex education to new heights. I'm in awe." - Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., prostitute/porn star turned sex guru/sexologist "Fascinating, heartfelt, honest, real stories of the heart/spirit/energy connection experienced in the passionate rituals of intimate consensual power play. These two courageous women write brilliantly of how erotic energies connect us with the big love we all seek from the source." - Cleo Dubois, educator, ritualist, video producer/star

I also had a p. intense reaction reading about D/S scenes replicating historical and ongoing oppressions but I don’t know enough to feel clear on where I stand. Don’t read the last couple chapters of appropriative new age spirituality junk.