Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide

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Too many unfaithful spouses think that once they’ve “confessed” (often only after being caught), there should be quick forgiveness and then back to life as normal. If however you want to join the millions of others who have reconciled when the cheater has shown remorse and humility reading this book will encourage you to make the wrong decisions.

When interactions backfire on me, it reinforces what I read in the book and helps me correct my behavior to best benefit me and the outcomes I want for me. Your cheater had an entire decision tree of options, beginning with difficult conversations, therapy, and divorce lawyers. But what about the many couples I know (including ones I've worked with) who are now years past the infidelity and are experiencing marriages that are connected and satisfying to both of them?It could be argued that manipulation of this sort isn't necessarily wrong because appreciation of any creative work usually demands a certain willingness to go along with what the creator is trying to get you to feel and will control you without you even knowing that your psychological buttons are being pushed. Schorn warns the cheater as co-parent is still the same selfish person with crappy life skills, and I've already been made aware of this as he is insisting he doesn't have to notify me of his travel plans during a global pandemic, and sees no reason to test negative or quarantine after a trip to Greece (where we honeymooned 16 years ago btw) with Ms Won-A-Turd, in fact he plans to come straight home and breathe British Air all over our asthmatic daughter and her compromised lungs. I especially recommend this book for partners of narcissists or those with NPD traits who are serial cheaters. The work of understanding vulnerabilities is the primary work of the cheater, not the betrayed spouse. The pain is horrific; I heard one of my clients state "I did not know that I could experience so much pain and still be breathing.

I am ready to take back my life from my using, abusing, narcissistic husband and life it to the full again.

Cheating is a horrible choice and very hurtful but a lot of the time cheating is a symptom of a larger issue. I highlighted so many parts of this book that I may as well just re-read it multiple times to pound everything into my stupid Chump head. Sure, it’s a conclusion so devastating it might leave you with trust issues and a permanent twitch, but liberating all the same. The writings contain some manipulative writing tactics and psychological triggers/hooks to get readers to fall for it. Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on.