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10 x "Submissive" Tattoo lettering in black - Sexy Kinky BDM Tattoo (10)

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BDSM contracts are a pretty important part of the relationship. Both parties need to bring something to the relationship to make their counterpart the best version of themselves. The contract outlines what the Dominant/submissive will be responsible for. They are meant to protect both people from hurt feelings and unrealistic expectations. They can include anything you want, really. And they can and should include any rules and consequences for rule breaking. These can be verbal or written out, but the most important part of the contract is communication. This is something that is ongoing throughout the duration of the relationship. Discipline Rewards don’t need to be things. Tangible items are nice, but non-physical things can be just as wonderful, and they don’t require any money spent. Personally, I prefer these type of rewards, especially when they aren’t expected. They take thought and consideration. When a Dominant takes the time to think of these things, they have learned how the submissive will respond. They really understand her. This is a high degree of intimacy between the couple. Essays- This should have the submissive explain the rule that was broken, why the rule is important, and why they must follow through with this consequence. Writing an essay forces the submissive to put into words what happened. It could even be structured in the way of an apology that has three parts: 1) I’m sorry for ____ 2)I need to follow this rule because ______, and 3)In the future I will do _____ to follow the rules set by my Dominant because he has my best interests in mind. It really is a very personal thing. What means ownership to me might not be the same as what it might mean to someone else, but I'll share my thoughts with you.

One of the biggest components of BDSM is that the relationship consists of a Dominant and a submissive. This is actually the cornerstone of this lifestyle. A Dominant will take control of the submissive. The extent of control is discussed and agreed upon between the two parties before any play time can happen. Responsible Dom/mes understand their submission is a gift and good submissive’s understand that Dom/mes need to be needed/wanted as well. The desired outcome is to have a healthy relationship where you both feel safe, happy, and cared for. By following rules that are set by the Dom, the submissive can relax and trust that they are taken care of. When the submissive complies with the rules, the Dominant feels proud that he is able to have been given the gift of submission. The Dominant then feels accepted, desired, and confident like the Master they are. Power Play If I broke a rule and knew that I disappointed my Dominant, I would need to have a discussion about what happened, why I shouldn’t break the rule, why the punishment happened, and that I am still loved and cared for. I made a bad choice, I am not a bad girl. While it looks different than post-playtime aftercare, that bit of reassurance and reconnection allows me to have time to improve and remember he is still there for me. RewardsI have been thinking about getting the bdsm emblem tattooed on my body for several years now, and recently I have been spending more and more time researching for the perfect design. Cementing ownership to/of someone can be an intimate thing and, as explained above, it can also be an intricately personal thing. Ownership can come in the form of mere words, actions, or more materialistic things like collars or gifts. There’s also the fascinating world of BDSM contracts. Let’s dive into some of the most common BDSM ownership options. Collars Ownership, or having a submissive submit to you in this kind of intense way, can be an incredible thing. And what do we do with incredible things? We celebrate them. There can be such a strong bond between a Dom/me and their submissive, and to cement that ownership link between the two of you can be something very much worth celebrating.

Some people desire a 24/7 D/s dynamic where the “ownership” spills out into everyday life (for example, the Dominant choosing the submissive’s clothing, hairstyle, jewelry, etc) and some may want ownership to strictly include playtime. In fact, it can even be some variation of the two. Really, ownership is unique to each D/s couple who chooses to define their relationship in this way. What does it really mean to be owned? For me, ownership needs to feel permanent, but also part of a loving and happy relationship. The things that symbolize ownership to me are things I can't get rid of too easily since the collar needs a special allen key that he keeps to remove it and my tattoo, of course, would need to be removed surgically. Both of these mean as much to me as my engagement ring. Speech Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to talk to the Dominant. For me, this would be a very painful punishment. I need a voice and to be unable to speak to him would be very painful. Some pointers for the design are that it needs to fit onto my body, so not be too big and masculine of a design. That is one of the objections I have with the traditional design, it looks quite manly to me.

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Things they find pleasurable- The Dominant should find out things that submissive would like to try or things that she really likes and give her more of that as a reward Maybe it’s something as easy as allowing her to masturbate while taking a hot bath or as elaborate as a spa day being pampered. Be creative with this one. During the early courtship, the Dominant will try and build the submissive’s confidence. As a submissive myself, this is crucial to helping me feel comfortable enough to test my limits. The Dominant can do things like ask for pictures in various stages of dress; starting from fully clothed and then gradually less. Reminding them that they are a beautiful, precious treasure to them. They can reassure them that they aren’t leaving. They will remind the submissive that they are safe and they cared for.

Though, there are other things that can be done, if a collar is not appropriate. Perhaps you might want to wear other jewelry, such as an 'o' ring or some sort of anklet or bracelet. There are many items of jewelry out there that are innocent enough unless you're 'in the know'. One jeweler, I like in particular is Attention- Maybe it’s a sweet text or message or maybe it’s a voice message. Either way it’s special attention that is given to the sub as a reward for following directions.

BDSM, as you may know, stands for Bondage/discipline, Dominance/submission, Sadism & Masochism. The “dominance/submission” part is where we’ll focus today, particularly on cementing that kind of relationship (commonly referred to as a D/s relationship) with some form of ownership. Before we dive into all the fun ownership stuff, let’s talk terms - because they are kind of important. Here is a useful link to explain what the symbol looks like and what it is and is not. emblemproject.sagcs.net/is.htm A “Dominant” is someone who takes on the role of a superior and often “controls” the other participant during BDSM play. A Dom/me can be called many things; Alpha, Sir, Daddy, Mistress, Domina, Goddess, etc. When it comes to ownership, the words “Master” or “Owner” are commonly used. When a submissive finds the right Dominant, some magic can happen. But there is one more step. You both need to agree on what you will both do, your limits, and punishments. Contracts

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