Eight Dates: Essential Conversations For A Lifetime Of Love

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Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations—on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust—from two of the world’s leading marriage researchers and clinicians. Protecting your relationship by creating a “wall around the two of you with an open window between you” This book walks couples through eight conversation-based dates to help them strengthen their connection and discover new things about each other.

Peering down at the city of San Francisco, the place where we’ve shared the past four years and plan to spend many more, this felt like the perfect ending to our Eight Datesjourney. What happens after the dates?

Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, is an award-winning psychologist, couples workshop developer, and author or co-author of five books. Love is an action even more than a feeling. It requires intention and attention, a practice we call attunement.”

What are the differences between our definitions of trust and commitment, and how can we resolve them?

In short, I’d recommend this book to any couple looking to take their relationship to the next level. Five enthusiastic stars! Der Input an sich ist an den meisten Stellen sicherlich sehr sinnvoll und richtig. Manchmal fühlte es sich aber ein bisschen von oben herab an und als ob die Herangehensweise der Autoren der einzig perfekte Weg wäre. Seltsam fand ich zum Beispiel, dass sie meinten, dass man nicht mit Menschen außerhalb der Beziehung über Probleme in der Beziehung sprechen soll. Das sehen wir nicht so und handhaben es auch anders.

Eighty-percent of married couples have sex at least a few times a month. Of those, 32% have sex 2 to 3 times a week.

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The answers can be found in Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, our latest book with Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD.

The dates were designed by John and Julie Gottman, along with their co-authors Doug and Rachel Abrams. John has spent the last four decades studying thousands of couples to understand what makes some relationships thrive and others fail. Julie is an award-winning clinical psychologist who’s worked with thousands of individuals and couples. They’re leaders in the world of love and relationships. What we learned: I wasn’t expecting it, but this was by far our hardest date. Sex is a sensitive topic for most people. It might have been the subject matter, or perhaps we were just in a bad mood, but this date veered off course in an unproductive way. Although I won’t kiss and tell, it’s important to know that sometimes these conversations aren’t easy. For those of you going through the eight dates, I recommend taking a break from each other for 20 minutes anytime you find yourself or your partner getting floodedso you can reset.Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations–on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust–from two of the world’s leading marriage researchers and clinicians. Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort–and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams. Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range–from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put Into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions–will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before–and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve. Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John M. Gottman – eBook Details A good idea for this date is to go to one of your go-to spots or activities, as it represents the time and commitment you’ve made to each other. Conflict. Conflict happens in every relationship, and it’s a myth to believe that in a happy relationship you’ll get along all the time. Relationship conflict serves a purpose. It’s an opportunity to get to know your partner better and to develop deeper intimacy as you talk about and work through your differences.