Spanking Letters from Scandinavia

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When I wrote the post, I had been disapointed that I didn't have a more-recent mainstream newspaper letter to include. When our kids were younger i was spanked when they were asleep but as they became preteens this was a problem so we decided that they should know that mom disciplined me as well. Paul and I are both newly weds in our late 20s. I went to public schools and he went to a private prep school. I was fascinated by his stories. He told me of how boys and girls received spankings for infractions. I pressed for details. He said every day if you were written up, you reported to a detention room after classes.

A mother writes, for instance: “Dear Dr. Myers. As a mother, under 30, of four children, viz. one girl aged 4 and three boys ages 2, 5 and 8 years, I find your articles extremely interesting. I agree with you fully on the subject of spanking, although I have been criticized at certain times by my husband, for being what he terms too severe.She told me she knew exactly what I needed and she'd give it to me as soon as we got home. I quieted up but she went on to say: Thanks for the sequel and the interesting slant it gave the subject of mothers spanking older girls. Answer: On two occasions I said as vigorously as I was able that I objected to using the hairbrush as a spanking device and to anything except the bare, flat hand applied low on the child’s fat thighs. I have also said from time to time that as soon as the child learned to accept authority that we should abandon physical pain entirely as a means of punishment, that, as a rule, this should occur before the child is four or five. Dr. Chase, the reason I cannot face a verbal discussion is because my mother still turns me over her lap and spanks me on my bare bottom.

A fake? Not necessarily. About seven years earlier, a young woman signing herself "B.J." had written twice to a Free Press advice column about being dominated by her mother; she gave their ages as 23 and 41 and stressed how charismatic her mother was. After the first letter, B.J. apparently showed the columnist's answer to her mother, which made her very angry. (There are two major papers in Detroit, the Free Press and the News, so someone whose mother read the News could write to the Free Press and at least hope that she wouldn't see it.) B.J. recalled that her mother had given her a spanking at age 18, and that had kept her in line ever since. (The columinst basically said to get out of there, but the column was discontinued before we could get more of the saga.) My husband always had his eyes on other women when we first married, I warned him twice, and swore I’d break him of that habit. My mom was a leadership female who spanked my dad and older brothers, so I decided to try physical discipline on Todd To the Editor: I am a young girl just turned seventeen years, an orphan, and I have live with my aunt who has taken care of me since I was seven years old. She is just as good as can be, and loves me dearly, I know, but is awful strict, and spanks me very often when I don't do just as she says, and though I try real hard to please her, I get spanked two or three times some days, except Sundays. She just catches me anywhere and pulls me over her knee and slaps me good with anything that comes handy. Now I tell her it is not right to spank such a big girl, but she says I will never be too big for her to spank when I don't do as she says. Won't some of your readers write a letter with real good reasons why she ought to stop spanking me, so that when I see it, I can show it to her, so she will stop?--A GOOD GIRLThis one was published in the Detroit Free Press in July of 1971, in an advice column by a Dr. Loriene Chase: Then in the mid 70's, a column in the News carried a series of letters about domineering mothers and ways of dealing with them. (The column in question, "Dear Jane Lee," was a treasure trove from our point of view.) One woman wrote in that the only effective response is to run, as she had, and she said, almost as an afterthought, that her mother had spanked her up to the age of 30. Two more women wrote in about how they, too, had been spanked into their 30's by their mothers, and how they had dealt with it. The reason I don't dismiss those letters is that they were about strategies for getting out, which is not exactly what fetishists write about.

She deserves respect and is entitled to spank you or if if she thinks so cane you in front of your wife. I am sure your wife would agree to the punishment and hopefully comfort you afterwards.We were in the car, her sister was with us and I was spent from a long day of shopping with the two women. I wasn't doing a good job of hiding my attitude and got a couple of generic warnings or scolding from my wife. When I got mouthy and then rude my wife went off! The third letter in this triology was written by a bobby-soxer to the American Weekly twenty years after the second letter and almost a half century after the first, but the question is still the same.

I would like to get the opinion of some readers on this question: Has a mother a right to spank a daughter who has passed her twentieth year? I was twenty last December and since that time she has turned me over her lap three times and spanked me soundly with a hairbrush. Though I realize she chastises me for my own good, and despite the awful sting of the hairbrush on my anatomy, I love her most dearly but still I think twenty should be beyond the spanking age. I wonder if there are other girls my age who still receive spankings from their parents. May G. I never know what will make her angry next, and when she does, over I go. I am afraid to leave, she is too strong for me, so what do I do?" I am a woman, 30 years of age. I have had a couple of serious love affairs: At ages 19 and 21. No one was hurt, they just faded away.

With the 4-year-old girl I use the same procedure: however, I give spank her with a very light hairbrush. I usually give her about 20 or 40 rather light spanks with it.