He Says She Says: Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes

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Today's star guest was David Carradine, who was Bill in Kill Bill. It was a funny interview and at the end he told Richard and Judy that he'd known of them for years, and was delighted finally to meet them, but was disappointed because they didn't argue with each other. As a result, I did numerous television and radio interviews around the world and gave several lectures and seminars about the subject. My views on the communication differences also appeared in various newspapers and magazine articles throughout the world. Judy has not had this misfortune. "He's a good father and he's very happily remarried," she has said of her first husband. While the exact phrase "He-Said, She-Said" is English-specific, similar concepts exist in many languages, demonstrating the universality of this type of situation. Quality of life means more than just consumption”: Two MIT economists urge that a smarter, more politically aware economics be brought to bear on social issues.A special invitation to book an optional hour with me via Zoom at a reduced rate to receive one-on-one coaching and strategizing after you've completed the video series He then asked me to meet with him and the actor in a rather clandestine fashion. The actor turned out to be Dustin Hoffman! The film they were working on was, of course, the enormously popular Tootsie, in which Dustin portrayed a woman so brilliantly that he won an Academy Award for his performance. Do gender theorists, then, hurt women by emphasizing the differences as gender differences? Schwartz thinks so. “The thing that really makes me nuts about Tannen and her ilk,” she says, “is that she implies all of these differences are reality, when in fact they are constructed. All of this could change; it is changing.” Application of the Sex Talk Rules to job situations can rectify a variety of work-related problems and reduce the odds of being victims of sexual harassment. For example, inappropriate laughter and vocal inflections can potentially be seen as encouragement to sexual advances. All too often, women do not advance in the work force because they have not learned how to use the Sex Talk Rules to their advantage. Everyone has gone home, it is getting late, and Richard and Judy start talking about something or other - I can't remember what. Suddenly they are laughing, and she's got her hand on his knee, and they are behaving like an ordinary married couple. They aren't being defensive, or professional. I'm not sure I believe everything they told me. I've heard too many stories of snappiness, for instance, to accept Judy's sad rebuttal. Maybe they just don't realise how scary they can be when demanding perfection from their staff.

I have seen no testiness, except for one moment during an ad break on the studio floor when Richard suddenly yelled, " Clear frame! Clear frame! There are people walking around like they've got moon boots on and someone nearly walked into shot!" But a daily live magazine show is a relentlessly tense environment and I categorise the above as acceptably testy in the circumstances. I'll host three Zoom calls, one each month, for rip-roaring conversations about the book. We'll chat, share ideas, learn from each other, laugh a lot, and improve our communication skills. Women are, from childhood, taught to talk this way, Lakoff says, then called weak or indecisive as a result. Not only that, but a woman who adopts a more “masculine,” forthright style receives professional punishment even if she wins personal rewards. She may get ahead, but she will also be called “pushy” or “bitchy.” In the TV series 'The Office,' a "He-Said, She-Said" scenario arises between Jim and Pam over their shared responsibilities. The changes are made, even though this last one seems odd in the circumstance, the apostrophe making no phonetic difference.I have a longstanding fascination with identifying popular celebrities who are, behind the scenes, overly testy. Whenever I'm with someone who might know - a chauffeur, or a production assistant, or whoever - I tend to ask, "Who is the worst-tempered celebrity you've come across?" The fact that many men and women continue to communicate in sexual stereotypes perpetuates these problems in our society today. In the scene where Dustin (as Michael) is in his agent’s office, he is abrupt in his physical movements and vocal tones. His movements are angular, broad, and away from his body, while his legs are spread apart when he sits down. In essence, he takes up more room. His speech is faster, more clipped and staccato, and even more nasal, as he barely opens his mouth or his lips when he speaks. He hardly uses facial animation, even though his most openly expressed emotion appears to be anger and hostility over his inability to get work as a male actor.

One time, around 1982, before we were involved personally," Richard later tells me, "we interviewed a psychiatrist on the show. When we got to the credits he turned to us and said, 'Are you two an item?' We really hadn't embarked on our affair at that point. We said, 'No.' He said, 'I'm very surprised. There's a naturalness between you, an affinity on air, that I assumed came from some kind of personal intimacy.' " However, you could achieve a similar effect other ways, too. For example, using ellipses, i.e. punctuation, to show concentration; pauses:The camera is on Christine Aziz as she learns she's the winner of the How To Be Published contest. She looks overwhelmed and starts to cry.

Some variations of this idiom include "He-Says, She-Says", "They-Said, We-Said", and "You-Say, I-Say", amongst others. It depends on the situation. In some cases, additional evidence or third-party testimonies can help clarify the situation. In others, resolution may be more difficult due to the inherently subjective nature of these disputes.Dr. Lillian Glass, a world renowned communication and body language expert and pioneer in the area of gender differences in communication, used her skills to help Dustin Hoffman for his Academy Award winning performance in Tootsie. In the end, the case against him rested almost entirely upon what may be termed, in part at least, 'he said, she said' of human controversy." The woman here assures Silberstein that she is independent, something her husband can assume will be taken for granted about himself. So, although her speech does not contain specific “hedges” or “question tags,” seeking reassurance from the listener is still present. The men who talked to Silberstein, on the other hand, talked not about their personalities, but about orchestrating the relationship. Half the men’s stories involve some competition or conquest, whereas none was mentioned by the women. Here is one example: Because we were responsible for the success of This Morning, we became a problem," says Richard. "ITV were basically saying, 'What if they get poached? We've got this brand, this thing called This Morning, but unofficially the brand is Richard and Judy.' The viewers didn't call it This Morning. They called it Richard & Judy. So we became far too identified with the show. I'm not being bigheaded. It's true. They thought, 'This is too important. This makes too much money. If they leave, we might lose this product.' So they got very nervous and precipitated a crisis. This woman called Maureen Duffy - Duffy the Vampire Slayer - came in with a brief to secure the future of This Morning without us. She was charged by David Liddiment at Network Centre, who now..."