The Truth About Chastity: A Tease and Denial Handbook

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Many people wear chastity belts simply because they wish to remain celibate. This may be motivated by religious or personal beliefs about the sanctity of marriage. Perhaps it simply stems from a disinterest in sex and a desire to protect oneself from threats that would otherwise compromise one’s chastity. Either way, wearing a chastity belt for this reason generally brings about it a sense of calm. Aside from any religious connotations that may contribute to the feeling, the calm is likely due to the fact that the wearer no longer has to worry about sexuality in its entirety. It no longer concerns them, and they’re free to devote their time and mental resources to other things. Beyond platonic friends and ex-girlfriends, a keyholder can also be a professional dominatrix, pro-domme, or another service for-fee provider. There are advantages and disadvantages to using a pro. An advantage is you don’t have to explain chastity to them. They probably know more about it than you do, and they will also probably know all about the different chastity device options. The disadvantage is you must pay them to enforce your chastity, and in some cases, they will insist upon making all the rules without any concern for what you may want in your chastity experience. Let’s look at three options. Professional Dominatrix This article needs additional citations for verification. Please help improve this article by adding citations to reliable sources. Unsourced material may be challenged and removed.

You’ll find your man wearing a chastity cage will make him more loving and communicative, and more willing to help around the house. And he’ll do this not because he’s necessarily feeling submissive, but because his feelings will make him close to you, and people who are close like to do nice things for each other, don’t they? Erotic sexual denial is sometimes used by a dominant to increase their control over a submissive. Because the submissive is kept in a state of sexual need and vulnerability, they are more likely to take a compliant stance with the dominant; failure to comply can result in additional teasing or an extended period of denial, among other punishments. Reagene, Dominic Paul (2014). BDSM & Fetish Dictionary of Kink, 2nd Edition. New York: Muze Management Publishing. p.82. ISBN 978-1-5070-3399-9. As ever, the language used changes from person to person, but as you can probably guess, this is about getting someone closer and closer, before denying and cutting off their orgasm.

The psychological effects of wearing a chastity belt explained

In the modern-day, infidelity usually ends up with a divorce. But occasionally it doesn’t. Sometimes, the victim of the infidelity will find it in their heart to forgive their cheating partner, with one condition. They have to be punished. And sometimes, wearing a chastity belt is part of that punishment. In this case, the psychological impact of wearing a chastity belt can be extremely potent. The wearer cannot run from the reminder of their betrayal, as it encases the anatomy of their infidelity. It cannot be taken off unless with a key, usually held by the cheater's spouse. The shame must be unbearable, especially because you can never ignore a steel cage around your privates. Every time you move, you feel its weight shift with yours, constantly guilt-tripping you for the things that you’ve done. I would personally be opposed to trying to suppress nocturnal erections. It’s pretty well accepted by most experts that these are designed to keep penile tissues ‘nourished’ by periodically flooding them with blood, which is what happens during an errction. Without this, these tissues can start to degenerate over time, lose elasticity due to fibrosis & over time that could result in loss of erectile function - in other words, ED !! I’m pretty sure you don’t want that!

I am not an expert in psychology. While I find the subject interesting, I haven’t undergone any kind of specialized training or certification. I have no experience or expertise in this field beyond what I have read. Much of what you’re about to read is simply conjecture based on my limited understanding of how our minds work. I don’t claim that this information is accurate or even true. Anything you do with the information you are about to read is your responsibility, and I do not condone any action taken based on anything written in this article. Erotic humiliation can also help enforce the dominant's position in the relationship. Orgasm denial is often accompanied by other forms of erotic humiliation such as forcing the submissive to do chores, crossdress, or consume bodily fluids. These can be used as punishments, as conditions for release, or simply at the discretion of the dominant. In the world of orgasm control, where, when and whether you want your sub to orgasm or not is completely up to you. It’s great fun to try over long distance, or just to see how far you can push your sub. In both cases, you just need to do a good job of explaining to them your interest in chastity and what you want them to do. And make sure you tell them that if they agree to be your keyholder, they are allowed to exercise their independent judgment about when they give you releases. Well, contrary to popular belief your man does not have to be strange or submissive to want to wear a chastity cage for you. The reasons are complex and come down partly to biology (the repeated tease and denial and the long-term wanting to come are the closest he’s ever going to get to a multiple orgasm); and partly to psychology (there’s a thrill in power-exchange for many men… and for many of us women, too, once we realise it’s just harmless fun and nothing to be afraid of).The aim of this wiki is to build an archive of chastity stories. The stories have been divided into 5 sections. Men kept in chastity by women(and vice versa), both lesbian chastity and gay men in chastity, as well as anything that doesn't fit into that category such as where you don't know who the keyholder is or where there are multiple ones. Orgasm denial practices can allow the dominant to exercise control over many aspects of the submissive's life. As such, they are often (though not always) practiced as an extension or enhancement of a broader BDSM relationship, or as a means of establishing one. They can allow the dominant to experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of sexual control and erotic power, and the submissive can enjoy intense feelings of sexual objectification and submission to the dominant.