Confessions of a Forty-Something F**k Up: The Funniest WTF AM I DOING? Novel of the Year (Confessions, 1)

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Because it's only when you're ready to surrender the life you thought you were going to live that you finally get the life you were always meant to live." But there are two main things I have a problem with in this book. The first is the main character’s grief. Now I know this is a humorous book, I totally get that. But humour and pain can co-exist quite nicely, especially in fiction. My gripe is the main character feels pain, but not quite enough. This is not to say that the pain of the childless can’t be overcome, not at all. All I’m At its heart, it is a love story, but it has many layers. There's romantic love for current partners, past partners, and lost partners, love for your friends, love for your children, love for strangers, and love for yourself. A funny, feisty story about the highs and the oh-so-lows of having to start over in your forties." — Mike Gayle, Bestselling author of All the Lonely People

Că fericirea nu e ceva ce îți dau alții, că îți poți îndeplini obiectivele din tinerețe (soț, casă ca în reviste și copii la școli private) și tot sa nu fii fericită. Că societatea îți impune un anume model chiar dacă nu ți se potrivește și, de-a lungul timpului, te face să te îndoiești de tot ce crezi tu că ai realizat. Că trăim într-o cultură în care a fi ocupat e un modus vivendi, suntem mereu așa de ocupați ca nu mai avem timp de prieteni, de întâlniri, de comunicat real cu oamenii, comunicare înlocuită cu mesajele pe whatsapp (la un moment dat Nell își sună o prietenă sa refuze o invitație pentru că i s-a părut aiurea sa refuze prin mesaj și prietena o întreabă dacă a sunat din greșeală). In books, TV shows and films, everything is dialled up to be fantasy, the perfect wife/husband, the perfect children, the perfect house, the perfect figure, the perfect job, the perfect life. But in real life, no relationship, no friendship, no sex, no job is perfect. Whilst I'm aware this book is also a fiction and should be a fantasy, it really holds a mirror up to us as a society. It talks about the negatives of being a woman in society, making it so familiar and relatable, but shows that you don't have to be perfect to be perfect. My theory is that’s why our eyesight goes as we get older: to protect us from seeing ourselves in sharp focus.” Pentru că, din postura ei de ”fată bătrână”, Nell își invidiază toate prietenele măritate și cu copii, cu case aranjate ca în reviste, cu petreceri elegante și cu vieți care par mai așezate decât ale ei, însă podcastul ei scoate la iveală faptul că, dedesubtul strălucirii, se ascund aceleași îndoieli, anxietăți, depresii, sentimente de ”nu sunt suficient de bună”, ca și în cazul lui Nell.

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In this instalment, it looks like Nell has her life under control, her ship is sailing smoothly. Maybe she isn’t such a f##k up after all? Or are the wheels about to come off her wagon again? Overall this is funny and heart-warming. I did like it even though there is a certain amount of cheese! It's still as funny and as honest and as relatable. Bizarrely, I found it really moving. When you get these kind of haphazard rom-coms (a genre I will be trademarking) you expect them to be fun and silly and light-hearted. You don't expect to find yourself crying at them, which I did on several occasions. But not always at the sad bits. Yes, there were sad bits and that made me teary, but the pure hope running through the book is so moving too. My bookclub friends will appreciate this one. ——‘When did I stop buying expensive lingerie and start buying expensive hoovers? Worst still when did I start getting excited about my new hoover?’ Same thing with Nell and Annabel’s feud. It was resolved instantly and I wanted it handled differently or a different outcome somehow. I guess I just felt like it was also done too neatly.

No Job - not my fault. Had a job. Enjoyed it. Pandemic came along. Lost job. So instead I say I'm a writer, when really I'm a failed author pleading for someone to read my book. Musela som sa rozosmiať. Napriek všetkému. „Netrápte sa tým, že starnete. Dôležité je, aby s vami nebola nuda." Written with wit, wisdom, and a resonating recognition of the human condition, "Confessions of a Forty-Something F**k Up" will have a special appeal to fans of novels that celebrate of friendship and reinforce the belief that while life doesn't always go according to plan, it doesn't mean you can't find happiness." — midwestbookreview.comTo je v poriadku," povie tichučko. "Mám osemdesiatjeden rokov a za ten dlhý čas, čo som na tejto zemi, som prišla na jedno: ak si v živote naozaj zaslúžite, je to sloboda a odvaha povedat neviem. Poviem vám jedno veľké tajomstvo. Nemusíte vždy všetko vedieť. Nemusíte vedieť, ako sa cítite, prešo sa cítite tak ako sa cítitie, nemusíte vedieť, čo chcete, či ste šťastná alebo nešťastná. Život je plný križovatiek, alternatív a rozhodnutí, a vyvíja sa na nás veľkž nátlak, aby sme robili tie správne. Ale, čo ak to neurobíme? Čo ak váhame, máme pochybnosti? Čo ak urobíme chybu alebo si protirečíme?"

Nell is a forty-something peri-menopausal Bridget Jones type character who is enjoying her own space in her first home and has an good job.

One thing I’ve learned through this bloody awful time is that grief isn’t linear. You can be doing all right, then it will suddenly come out of nowhere. It’s the silly little things that remind you .” But then something happened that no one expected, turning the world upside down in a way no one could have ever imagined. Eighteen months on, life is finally returning to normal! But what is normal anymore?