The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm in a Busy World

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I also get a lot of questions about husband-and-wife relationship problems. If your child is emotionally upset, it could be because the husband didn’t pay enough attention to his wife. So being kinder to your wife can help your child to have balance.” Even when we are awake we are no different from a sleepwalker. We do things without the awareness of doing them. Just because our eyes are open does not mean we are awake.” If we consider someone’s identity as rooted primarily in his hometown or the school he graduated from, we end up looking only at his past and not paying attention to his current skills or future vision.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 174

Feelings are often born from a matrix of conditions beyond your control. Just like you can’t control the weather, of your boss’ mood, you can’t control the feelings in your body. They are just passing through, like clouds in the sky. They, too, dissipate on their own. Sometimes, after a relationship is over, you catch yourself thinking, ‘I hope she is happy,’ without bitterness. This is a sign you have moved on.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 155 When purchasing something you will have for a long time, like a house or a piano, choose the best within your means, not something that will do for now. You might think it is good enough, but after a while you will regret it.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 178If you are sincere about reaching enlightenment, you can learn even from a child, or from the person who insults you on the street. The entire world becomes your teacher.” Perfect for readers looking for a respite from busy lives and tumultuous times . . . Sunim evokes a calm assuredness in his philosophy, reminiscent of Lebanese-American poet Kahlil Gibran.”— Publishers Weekly

Sunim offers the advice that slowing down is the key to self-reflection and better understanding our emotional state of mind on a more complex and deeper level. He is a Seon Buddhist teacher with 20 years of experience, and he spent seven years teaching Asian religions at Hampshire College.PDF / EPUB File Name: The_Things_You_Can_See_Only_When_You_Slow_-_Haemin_Sunim.pdf, The_Things_You_Can_See_Only_When_You_Slow_-_Haemin_Sunim.epub

More often than not, it’s our perception of things that happened in the past or things that may happen in the future that drives negative thoughts and emotions. But we can’t control or change the past or the future. So why worry about them? Why allow our perception of them to make us unhappy? The beauty of the book starts with the charming cover, and the printing, dividing the subjects into chapters like Mindfulness, Passion, Relationships and Love, all with very unique paintings that completes the picture and make it into a real masterpiece. A glance into any of these paintings is enough for you to "slow down" and see things differently. Do men seek your advice as well? “Usually the husband tells me, ‘My wife nags, she tries to control me, she tells me: “Do this, do that, you’re not good enough.”’ So I jokingly tell my female audience, ‘You thought before you got married that you would be able to somehow change him, and you now know how impossible that is. And a part of love is acceptance, rather than trying to change your husband. To a certain degree, we have to reconcile and accept differences.” companion. It is with this that Sunim realized that maintaining good relationships was like sitting near a fireplace.Do you have a lot of enemies? Then be humble and stop speaking ill of people. Those who do not make enemies are more powerful than those who have the strength to fight them all and win.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 114 You are beautiful not because you are better than others but because these is only you who can smile like that. May you fall in love with your unique self.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 160