Buy the F*cking Lilies: And Other Tools to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There

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I enjoy the honesty and that the book covered a wholistic approach to the mind, body and relationships, which are the most important to develop a healthy and happy life. on any more advice from someone “who’s been there” (not where I’ve been) that amounted to the same (superficial? And the language she implores, like the overuse of the word "fuck" (which I realize is so ~*trendy*~ in self-help books now), and "supz" instead of super, "v" for very, was just a bit much for me.

I don't know how you could live for a year in a house with gynecological equipment rotting in your front yard and not turn that into a hilarious anecdote? It’s really helped me over the last month (during lockdown) and I have incorporated quite a few things from the book into my daily life. However, it wasn’t the fierce memoir I expected, but rather a self-help book for someone in their twenties. And I actually agree with a lot of the things the author says, like how when you have depression and anxiety but you also come from a background of privilege, you might actually feel a lot of guilt over being so depressed and anxious because you don't feel like you "deserve" to. I still re-read chapters/sections to ground myself and implement little pieces of advice into my daily life.No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. I found it to be a kind of self help book with lots of ideas of things to try for changing the negative voice in your head, and just getting more positive about your life. With humor and compassion Tara takes you through some rough times and gives the reader some short cuts so they don’t have to go the long way. This is the book Tara wished someone had given her and it is the book many of us desperately need: a candid, hysterical, addictively readable, practical guide to growing up (no matter where you are in life) and learning to love yourself in a non-throw-up-in-your-mouth-it's-so-cheesy way.

As a kid, the books of David Sedaris made me feel like I was not alone in having a "different" family and my prayer-hope-please-oh-please-wish is that my book gives you some comfort. This book also emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and self-care, which I also think are really important.In that world, the “individual” seems required to “win” against any wider social and cultural imperative. This is the audiobook Tara wished someone had given her and it is the audiobook many of us desperately need: a candid, hysterical, addictively readable, practical guide to growing up (no matter where you are in life) and learning to love yourself in a non-throw-up-in-your-mouth-it's-so-cheesy way. I'm loving this book, i was going through some emotional issues at the moment i bought it and it was so calming, funny and conforting, i wasn't familiar with the author but she definitely made an impact in my life. Yet: I really did find Tara Schuster to be likeable and relatable, and even if she seemed to have gotten most of her best ideas from other sources (which she notes), I can still see the value in this book for the right reader. The most nutty thing were the unimaginably cruel voice mails her estranged mother would leave her after her parents separated and the mother took the younger sister, leaving Tara with her dad.

The third time, from the context, I realized she was trying to say “right now,” and apparently didn’t have the time or space to be clear about this. And it was in these journals that Schuster discovered where her hurts originated and began to imagine what future actions might heal those wounds. She has been on medication for years for depression and anxiety and while she lays out long lists of guidelines to create rituals that will better oneself, she has included notes about how it’s ok to not follow them to the letter all the time.I chose this book for an annual challenge - the May selection was a book with a flower in the title. Instead of remaining on a self destructive path she took on the challenge of figuring out how to get the skills she needed to change and grow.

Today, Tara Schuster is a happy and fulfilled “self-care ninja”, and as Comedy Central's Vice President of Talent and Development, is by all outward appearances (and by her own account) living a healthy and successful life.I'm sure Tara is a cool person with great things to say - I just wish she hadn't presented it to everyone as self care.