The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did): THE #1 SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER

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When I try to discuss it with my dad, he says he would be “disappointed because I like telling people you are a teacher”. I have asked my own children about what they would like to do when they are grown-up and maybe I’ve unintentionally shown more approval when they lean towards something professional, but I now realise that all I want is for them to be happy. So, how do I find the courage to just be me, without a label? And how do I instil this in my daughters?

This probably means paying as much attention to scheduling fun as we do to scheduling our work. As the great violinist and conductor Yehudi Menuhin said: “Anything that one wants to do really, and one loves doing, one must do every day. It should be as easy to the artist and as natural as flying is to a bird. And you can’t imagine a bird saying, ‘Well, I’m tired today, I’m not going to fly.’”

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In this warm, practical and witty book, No.1 Sunday Times bestselling psychotherapist Philippa Perry shows you how to approach life's big problems.

Philippa Perry adalah seorang psikoterapis. Dengan jam terbang yang tinggi dan variasi kasus yang ia tangani, maka sudah tidak perlu dipertanyakan lagi bagaimana kualitas tulisannya. Awalnya, aku punya ekspektasi bahwa buku ini akan sama seperti buku kesehatan mental yang pernah aku baca. Seperti misalnya Lost Connection oleh Johann Hari, Filosofi Teras oleh Henry Manampiring, atau The Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down oleh Haenim Sunim. Yang intinya adalah soal menyadari ada hal-hal yang bisa kita kendalikan dan ada yang tidak.The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read, The Whole Brain Child, No Drama Discipline, Mindsight 4 Books Collection Set

Judulnya memang menarik. Kalau baca sinopsisnya, bisa ditaksir buku ini membahas tentang pengasuhan anak. Tapi kan aku nggak akan punya anak, why did I read this? Sepanjang membaca buku ini, aku merasa adanya kedekatan topik dengan apa yang dibahas oleh Guy Winch dalam How to Fix A Broken Heart. Kacamata keilmuan adalah pisau bedahnya namun dibahasakan dengan minimalis tanpa membuat pembaca bingung dengan istilah teknis. The following chapters went downhill. Perry starts with pregnancy and goes through from babyhood to adulthood with her parenting advice. Much of this has already been published by other authors and there isn't much new advice here. As I have already read other books and articles about parenting (covering topics like being responsive to your baby, validating your child's feelings, etc) I felt like I had read it all before. Perry's writing style is weak and uncaptivating compared to other parenting books.Tidak perlu (menunggu) punya anak (sendiri). Kita bisa melakukannya sekarang. Mengaplikasikannya ke dalam diri sendiri & supaya relasi dengan orang terdekat (partner hidup, misal) menjadi lebih sehat + berkualitas. We didn’t. When you are born into a family, that family is normal. Grayson doesn’t dress up as a woman all the time; most of the time he’s in an overall covered in dust, which might not be normal to other families, either. When he won the Turner Prize, a journalist asked Flo, then aged 10 – and without an adult present – ‘What it’s like to have a dad who’s a transvestite?’ and she said: ‘Well, how would I know? I’ve never had any other sort of dad.’” I just didn’t think it was for me at all. Great advice I agree with as a parent trying to break a toxic cycle, but presented in very dull and monotonous format that just felt like reading psychology papers. I also think some of it felt a little out of touch in places - suggesting family could pay rent for you to be present with your child? Asking you to spend a weekend in a hotel with your child one to one? I appreciate the context in which this was suggested, but it felt like it came from a place of privilege and would perhaps feel out of reach for a lot of people.