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Porn can be incredibly arousing, but not everyone enjoys mainstream pornography, with good reason. Most porn films are made with men in mind, which involves sex from the male perspective. If you are curious, don’t be afraid to experiment as it's perfectly normal to feel sexually aroused by watching people having sex. 'Consider trying out audio erotica, sexy and erotic novels, magazines, or even different types of films and genres, like female-focused, female-made pornography,' suggests Sabat. 22. Make your own erotica Masturbation doesn’t have to lead to orgasm. But if you’re in the mood and want that endorphin rush, there are a few things you can do to help your body achieve the Big O: Generally, I think of social media as the scourge of our day, but obviously that’s not universally the case. Randy notes that he himself was never a big fan of musical parodies, but he realized that musical parody puts everybody who recognizes the music in the same starting place and can be unifying at a time when we are so divided. He says that many times he has been surprised to discover he has right-wing fans. Once you've discovered what feels nice to touch, have a think about what turns on you. 'Do you dream of dominating your partner, or are you most aroused in a submissive role? Are there certain situations that always get you going?' asks Sabat. 'Knowing your turn-ons is important and masturbation is a great way to explore them with your own mind. Take time to figure out what really makes you horny: doing so will make your self-pleasure sessions even more climatic.' 21. Women watch porn too

When my mother in law comes to our house I like to get naked and put on my bathrobe and sit down in front of my mother in law and let her see my hard **. she 88 years old. and she just looks at it and when I see her looking at it it makes it harder. The first step to sexual gratification? Stop thinking about masturbation as a dirty little secret. 'It’s a perfectly healthy thing to do, with a myriad of health benefits,' says sex therapist Mia Sabat. 'By framing masturbation as part of your self-care routine, instead of something to feel embarrassed about, you can explore your body with comfort and confidence.' 2. Relax and caress yourself For me, I was constantly threatened with being spanked. There were always these threats around, and they carried out these threats as well.You can also add stimulating gels such as orgasm gels, or lubes with heating or tingling benefits to spice up your sex life, these will work in addition to G-spot stimulation to result in a more intense orgasm; plus it can feel amazing! 6. Stimulate your clitoris and vulva. I use my hand, read sexy stories, and fantasize about past experiences. I masturbate quite frequently actually — at least four times a week. I’m an open book when it comes to literally anything else, but when it comes to masturbation, I’d never admit to doing it. Honestly, typing, or even saying the words ‘I masturbate,’ feels so foreign and taboo. I’m not ashamed of doing it, I’m just super secretive about it." —Noelle, 17 Lots of scare stories have grown up around sexual self-exploration over the centuries. People are told that it makes hair grow on your palms, makes "real" sex unsatisfying, and that it's only for the sad and desperate. None of these tales is true, but the overall result of the negative messages around the subject is that masturbation is seen as a sad activity for desperate people, which shouldn't be valued or discussed. As a teenager I developed a serious Exhibitionism Problem. Fortunately nobody else but me knew about it. It would have been very damaging if it were discovered to my family who were public figures. If the idea of going straight into touching yourself feels a bit intimidating, start by placing a pillow between your legs and rolling around on the bed. The soft gentle arousal of dry humping can work as foreplay and build up to more concentrated clitoral or vaginal stimulation. 19. Map out your erogenous zones

Did you know your brain is your most valuable sex organ? Next time you consider self-pleasure, try stimulating your mind before even touching your body. 'Engaging with alternative forms of pornography that start with your brain, such as audio pornography or erotic literature, or even spending some time crafting your own sexy fantasy, can lend a totally new experience to your personal time,' says Sabat. My mother would drink, be enraged, threaten me with being spanked, I would go out to our toolshed and beat myself, photograph myself and masturbate. It became a regular thing. I guess out of rage and frustration acting out my abuse. I started again drawing pictures and writing stories about spanking. Another important aspect of sexual experimentation is learning how your body responds to touch, and testing out different ways of touching yourself can be exhilarating. 'Experiment with the amount of pressure you use on your body and clitoris, to see what suits you best,' says Sabat. 'You may discover a new-found sensitivity, or pressure points that you like to be a little rougher with.' The last time I got beaten was when I was 14. My sister was torturing me. They told me that I needed to be tough and not let them get to me. Well I got furious at my sister and punched her. She ran into my father and complained. My sister and my brother and a neighbor friend were there in the living room. My father got furious at me and he went and got a piece of metal bar. He made me pull down my pants and underpants and beat my bare bottom with that piece of metal bar real hard for a good long time. He apologized after the fact for losing control but not for the beating. There may have been some incidents where I was bothering my mother in the store and she threatened me with being spanked on the spot there in the supermarket.Celebrating our bodies, and the pleasure they can give us, can be the starting point for an extraordinary relationship with ourselves and the world. This one is all about personal preference. You can use both hands to play with your vagina and your clitoris or a combo of a sex toy and fingers. When you stimulate your clitoris and vagina — especially the G-spot — at the same time, you’ll feel an explosive orgasm that may leave you convulsing or even lead to ejaculation. I was 18 when I first tried. It was a super uncomfortable feeling. I think because I felt like it was a ‘dirty’ thing to do — even though the reason I was trying it in the first place was to familiarize myself with my body while I’m alone, so I’d be comfortable and know my body when I was with my boyfriend as our relationship got more serious. I just Googled how to do it. I moved past feeling dirty or embarrassed about masturbating, because I realized how comfy I am with my body now. I’m proud that I’m so in tune with myself.” —Jordyn, 19

Every year on my birthday I would get a birthday spanking which was given over my clothes the number of years I was plus five for good measure. Take your time: You don’t have to rush masturbation. Play around with techniques and take your time to enjoy all of the sensations you’re feeling throughout your body.

8. Drink water, folks

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Mix it up with a range of motions, from stroking and circular, to in and out. For anal, try face-down doggy styleI think. I definitely remember getting birthday spankings up to the age of 14. I remember being confused, humiliated and embarassed. They weren't on my bare bottom and they weren't hard, but because of the earlier incidents. Once you've established what turns you on and what feels nice to touch, you might find you enjoy anal play. 'While anal play is burdened with some of the strongest stigmas, it’s important to understand that exploring your butt can result in an incredibly pleasurable experience,' says Sabat. 'Next time you feel the urge to venture out of your comfort zone, get some lube and try exploring your more taboo erogenous area. Start by slowly caressing the outside of your anus, and move at a pace that makes you comfortable and excited - it could lead to your best orgasm yet.'