Daring To Take Up Space

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So, to protect themselves, they make you think that you are in the wrong for showing your feelings and speaking your truth. Her belief is that we can each achieve greater happiness when focusing both on our dreams and on other people in our lives. You could say “thank you” or “I value that,” but refrain from downplaying the praise or responding in a self-deprecating manner. Instead, they may attract self-centred, narcissistic, emotionally stunted, and selfish people who take advantage of their inability to speak their truth and draw a line. Taking up space is essential to our well-being and can be used to protect us from intrusion and boundary violations.

For example, you may feel a sense of familiarity when someone makes decisions for you, even if you know that’s not right. Thus, you shouldn’t always be the listener or supporter but also have room to ‘take’ other people’s support, listening, and time. If you do not believe you can be loved only for who you are, you would feel you must always be doing something not to be rejected and abandoned by the world. Her writing is guided by the concept of unapologetic vulnerability - giving people permission to honor their feelings as they come and to take up space in the world as their authentic selves. They may grow up without the chance to discover who they are, their likes and dislikes, and their interests.Daring to Trust explores the importance of trust throughout our emotional lives: how it develops in childhood and how it becomes an essential ingredient in healthy adult relationships. The truth is that many people who have been told that they are wrong or “too much” have developed a strong negativity bias— they almost always hear only the negative and blow it up, neglecting other factors.

Only when you are in the company of others and see yourself in relation can you discover who you are.

It can be challenging to unlearn what you have been taught about your presence and potential, but with effort, it is possible. Many people who have not known how to take up space for years feel empty and lost in their identity. But daring leadership in a culture defined by scarcity, fear, and uncertainty requires skill-building around traits that are deeply and uniquely human.