Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be my happily ever after

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I was married to someone I wasn’t even sure I wanted to be with. But there I was and a year later I ended up pregnant. Jasmine Yes, I would. However, it most likely would just be a very sweet, romantic elopement. I did the wedding bit, and I don’t want to make my friends and family go through that again – I don’t even want to. I wouldn’t even want a bridal shower or a bachelorette party. It’s unfortunately lost its shine, and I’m fine not ever experiencing it again. I will never forgive him for lying to me but it has been three years since the divorce was final and I try to be civil when I see him. Every day I am more content and stable. I feel now that I can be happy every day. My ex was not happy for the last decade, at least, of our marriage. He made our household an awful place while he tried hard to play out his fantasies of “having it all”. ‘The loss of companionship and intimacy is hard’

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If you don’t see your partner giving your relationship the SAME amount of attention & energy that you are producing, and you have to ASK them to step up, they don’t want to, and most likely never will. Your partnership should be a co-dependant union, but at the same time, a safe space for your independent journey to flourish as well (and your partner should be there to support and encourage.) If you feel like they don’t love you, they don’t. In those moments, confrontation is so important, and you should fight for your boundaries to be respected. If your hearts aren’t in alignment, it’s time to go. Bella Following years of campaigns to remove the need to ‘blame’ one of the parties seeking Divorce by citing adultery or unreasonable behaviour, the Government has finally responded to calls to reform divorce law. But in Get Divorced Be Happy, Helen Thorn makes the argument for enjoying every aspect of single motherhood. There’s no one else to answer to, no one to consider aside from the kids and suddenly plenty of free time again. Time to reconnect with old friends, meet new ones, and consider your own needs. My ex is in a longstanding relationship with a woman who is much more like him now. Everyone in my family says she’s wonderful and they’re happy, which confirms that I made the right choice. ‘Don’t underestimate how difficult divorce will be’I kept pursuing the marriage, and compromised all my integrity – and in turn, I gave him full control. Chloe

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Helen describes how she spoke to her two children about getting divorced. Although they didn’t need to know the details, Helen felt it was necessary not to sugarcoat the situation and decided to be honest. Although challenging, the now ex-couple co-parent positively, and Helen senses she has a fantastic new formed, tighter relationship with her children.From the messiness that comes with untangling two lives, splitting assets, facing the dissolution of mutual friendship groups and being ‘too young to be divorced but too old to be single’ in the eyes of society, we speak to women about the highs and lows of starting over and the lessons they learnt when they decided to reclaim their happiness. The catalyst that led to the divorce was when we had the baby and I went through all of this on my own, with zero support from him. Jasmine What’s different about dating after divorce, how have you found navigating that world as a divorcee? That I am my own person and no one can control you and you do what you want, as I am allowed to be happy.

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I thought of stereotypical divorce as something that happens a lot further down the line when you have grown-up children. Alicia Here’s the thing: some marriages just don’t work out, regardless of age. A couple were happy until they were not and irreconcilable differences aren’t reserved for the middle-aged.Don’t rush things. Take it easy and see where life takes you. Stay true to yourself, nobody has the right to change you. If they don’t accept you the way you are, they’re not worth being with you. I changed who I was to put you both first but now I give up.” When Adele released “Easy On Me” – the first song on her long-awaited fourth album 30 – the lyrics hit home for many women who divorced young. I will never regret it as I wouldn’t be me without that experience and I wouldn’t have my job now, be with the man I love, or have the friends and family without them. But I do regret parts of it and for letting myself stay in a situation that changed me for the bad. The stress and expense of potentially contested divorce proceedings will be avoided by removing the requirement for consent, admission of adultery or a level of unreasonableness. So if single parenthood is really so good, why the radio silence? Shouldn’t we all be shouting it from the rooftops? T he poet, Holly McNish who loves her life as a single mother, think it’s because mum’s feel guilty gushing about how good they find their child free time to be. In Get Divorced Be Happy she says,

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I became unexpectedly separated ten months ago and I was looking for a book that was positive in tone and that would fill me with hope and appreciation for the things I've gained. This book tried really hard to be it but it didn't quite get there for me. Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be my happily ever after, by Helen Thorn. Helen’s divorced due to infidelity, and she explains how she had a new lease on life when she started again. She wakes up every morning loving how she looks and feels. “Harnessing life and starting over again was a blessing”, she said. Helen had a sense of lightness, choosing her path every morning. She wishes everyone, regardless of their relationship status, had that energising feeling of self-worth.I had felt it for a long time but I kept brushing it aside and told myself I was just going through my own stuff and it wasn’t the relationship that was the issue. The main reason for convincing myself of this is because there was nothing explicitly wrong with our relationship that made me want to get out. I just fell out of love with him and it didn’t feel like it once did. It was like living with a good friend. I’m 25 years old (26 in a few weeks) and I’m from Estonia.I was married to a guy from Syria for 3.5 years. I got married one day before my 22nd birthday. Got divorced at 25. I’ll try to explain our story as shortly as possible. I could keep talking about this for hours, probably could even write a book! The singer’s experience isn’t unique but due to the stigma and social commentary that often surrounds divorcing at a young age, it felt refreshing for her to be telling that story publicly having made it through the other side; committing both her pain and healing to record in an album millions of women could blast along country lanes, throwing their legal paperwork out the window for years to come. I’d also want people in this situation to know that even though it will be hard, you will come out the other side and be happy again. Alicia Chloe Yes, before I found out about him cheating, I did everything in my power to avoid divorce (which I why I stayed for so many months.) I couldn’t let a marriage end after 1 year! What would my friends and family think, they’d be so confused and disappointed!