The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did): THE #1 SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER

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Philippa Perry pada bab awal langsung mengatakan bahwa relasi orang dewasa adalah akumulasi dari pengalaman hidup, sebagian besar berasal dari masa kecil. Sebelum terlambat, ada baiknya untuk membenahi terlebih dahulu hubungan kita. Baik itu ingin dikomunikasikan kepada orangtua atau kita mau menyelesaikannya sendiri (salah satunya dengan konsul ke psikolog). She writes with an inquisitive elegance rarely found in parenting guides ... it is forgiving and persuasive' Hadley Freeman, the Guardian

Many experiments have been done which illustrate that old people are generally more content than younger people. We are more content because as we begin to get closer to the end of our life, we don’t focus as much on the future as we do when we are young and have so much future ahead to think about. We live in the present and make the most out of every day, because we know those days are limited. This is a lesson for all of us, to live more in the present moment, rather than in what has already happened or has yet to happen. I often try to read books on parenting, more for insight really, but if I can take some tips from it - great! This relatively short book is broken into sections, each detailing how to engage with your child and approach various situations. I found it to be both interesting and practical, and I really appreciated Perry's approach of trying to understand things from your child's perspective before you act. It's like a users manual for your brain. It's trying to apply a lot of material to a very broad audience, so it is of necessity descriptive rather than prescriptive. That's just fine with me since it's so well-grounded in our (admittedly nascent) understanding of neuroscience and truths that have tended to emerge from Western Civ. Aku sesungguhnya sudah tidak antusias dengan kehadiran Big Bad Wolf Indonesia. Ketika acara tersebut masih dihelat di ICE BSD, aku bahkan tidak menyempatkan diri untuk datang. Hingga akhirnya aku terpancing juga untuk melihat koleksi yang mereka tawarkan secara virtual melalui Tokopedia. Dari beragam buku non-fiksi, aku tidak menyangka akan menemukan buku ini. Serial The School of Life yang kerap aku lihat di rak Kinokuniya Plaza Senayan ternyata ada di BBW. In The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad that You Did), renowned psychotherapist Philippa Perry shows how strong and loving bonds are made with your children and how such attachments give a better chance of good mental health, in childhood and beyond.

Sometimes , I get carried away under stress and stop observing my surroundings which results in a sequence of thoughts that conquer my mind and are unrelated to my feeling of that particular situation. This is not a good approach, instead I should stay focused. Well, this book suggest an exercise to stay focus, in general. She calls it, the Grounding Exercise:

Tidak perlu (menunggu) punya anak (sendiri). Kita bisa melakukannya sekarang. Mengaplikasikannya ke dalam diri sendiri & supaya relasi dengan orang terdekat (partner hidup, misal) menjadi lebih sehat + berkualitas. Sepanjang membaca buku ini, aku merasa adanya kedekatan topik dengan apa yang dibahas oleh Guy Winch dalam How to Fix A Broken Heart. Kacamata keilmuan adalah pisau bedahnya namun dibahasakan dengan minimalis tanpa membuat pembaca bingung dengan istilah teknis. There have been too many titles where midway through, I thought to myself, "this is all common sense; I could've written this," but for this book, while an easy read, it put a number of psychological traits and practices into fresh perspectives.In this warm, practical and witty book, No.1 Sunday Times bestselling psychotherapist Philippa Perry shows you how to approach life's big problems. Philippa Perry suggests some more exercises which we should consider in forming a habit of. Such as physical exercise, keeping a diary, practising investing in relationships, being keen on to differentiate between Good Stress and bad one, giving attention to your thoughts while doing automated or monotonous work like washing dishes or making coffee, and learning new things. Learning new things is important and useful for the mind. I worry...about what might happen to our minds if most of the stories we hear are about greed, war and atrocity. For this reason I recommend not watching too much television. Research exists that shows that people who watch television for more than four hours a day believe that they are far more likely to be involved in a violent incident in the forthcoming week than do those who watch television for less than two hours per day. However, I will admit that I couldn't shake off the knowledge of who the author is married to while reading the book. That biographical fact was introduced in first lines of the book, probably as a selling point, but in my opinion, it did a disservice to authors own standing as a talented independent writer with her own thoughts and knowledge to share.

Sometimes it’s great: you get to go to parties and meet actual famous people. Swooning over Eddie Redmayne being a particular highlight for me. But before the Turner Prize win in 2003, my dad took weekends, most weekends. This Christmas Day he was working in the morning.

I wasn't so interested in the usual psycho-babble that psychotherapists and psychologists get caught up in to unravel people's stories and causes for emotional issues in life.. fair enough, talking helps, though theories are just theories at the end of the day.