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Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD

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I would wholeheartedly recommend this book to anyone that resonates with the quotes I’ve included above. If you are on-time and successful but also an anxious mess who feels like they’re never doing enough, never able to keep up with your peers, this book is for you. If you are exhausted and burned out because you’re trying so hard to be a normal person and accomplish what seems easy to everyone around you, this book is for you. Come read and understand that you’re not broken, you just have ADHD. Before we finish up. I also wanted to make sure we talked about, energy management because you've got the Solve-it grid in the book, which is fantastic. So we're not going to go specifically into that cause that's, as we talked about before, the podcast is very hard to visualize without having the visuals right in front of you. So, listeners are going to have to buy the book because it's fantastic and it's got this great tool in it. It's talks a lot about energy management, which is something I'm really interested in because I've really discovered how important following my energy path through the day was. Over the summer I got COVID and that was not great for me. I had about 30 minutes a day that I could be productive because I was just exhausted the rest of the day. And it really drilled home that you got to work when you can work. Can't just hope that you're scheduling your time, the right way.

William Curb: Yeah. And it's just, is really easy to hit that. Like, why can't I do this? Why is this so hard for me and not hard for everyone else? And I've been definitely feeling that this winter just being like, it's just coming down, even though I'm getting stuff done. And I'm just keeping up with things. I feel like it's a struggle to get there with everything. I know it doesn't matter. It's so like, there's something wrong with you and I'm like, no, you're just, you're pushing too hard. Further into the book, it contrasts neurotypical style convergent thinking with ADHD divergent thinking. There was a 9-point outline of divergent thinking "cognitive errors" which could be summarised as: "Divergent thinking can be great and you should enjoy it, but if it makes it hard to get your work done, just switch and think more like a neurotypical." There is no direct explanation on how to switch into convergent thinking, just to "do" that. Similarly, there is a chapter devoted to toxic motivation traps, explaining that essentially all the ways ADHDers motivate ourselves are harmful, and we should do a different thing. There was no clear guidance about what that different thing should be, although a couple bullets of the toxic motivation traps (such as talking to your future, present, and past self) were actually described as a positive action that can support our thinking. Dr. Tamara Rosier: Yeah. You know, it's funny because I'm, I'm always surprised of when I get to Friday night. Like, I don't know why I'm so tired, but I'm exhausted. My husband just looks at me like, are you serious? You can't figure this out. Like you've been going, going, going all week and now your body's like, "Hey, we're done", but each Friday night I'm somewhat surprised at how tired I am. And I think it's kind of funny that I don't really ever figure this out. I mean, I know it enough to write about it. And yet each Friday night, I wonder why I'm so tired. And so I'm familiar with what you're talking about. I'd like to add though. So the TikTokers, the ADHD TikTokers are saying, "Hey dude, the DSM is missing all of these things" and it's a democratic solution. To the authorities kind of ignoring ADHD. And the DSM is way behind in talking about ADHD. Russ Barkley talks about that quite a bit. Right? William Curb: And even with that, I go, okay, what if they are a jerk? Now I'm letting them control my emotions. I don't want to give them the satisfaction. Like the best way to control trolls online is to go, Hey, are you okay? They don't know how to deal with that because that's not the reaction they're looking for.

Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD

Dr. Tamara Rosier: I would love to encourage people to remember things will always take longer than they want to plan for. And that you will always either overestimate your energy or underestimate your energy. We usually don't get it just right. So just be aware of the time and the energy. We rely on our limbic center, our center for fight flight, or freeze to do a lot of the thinking. That's also the emotional processing center. So it's really not coincidental that most of us have emotional dysregulation issues. In fact, it's far more frequent

William Curb: Yeah. And it's, it's hard to get out of, but it's, once you start going, oh, I'm not actually comparing anything. Cause that's the problem with comparison. We're not actually comparing anything. You're just going, that's better. I'm going to compare this rotten apple that I found to this perfect apple. Why would anyone want this rotten apples? Like, well, because you just found that on the side of the road and you just decided that was what you had I just work differently. And so it's to, you know, I, I was convicted because I'm like, well, I can't reach everyone because I can only see so many clients per week. I really want to write this to people so that they know that their brain isn't broken. So a lot of times it was kind of like, this is sounds very sappy, but it was a letter to the clients I haven't met yet. Try to convince them you brain's not broken. William Curb: Yeah. I'm like, well, I guess, I guess the obvious one is 2 million. So wait until I do that's also doubling the goal is not- And I say it almost every Friday and every Friday night, he's like, well, you've had a busy week, you know, you leave it all on the field during the week. I was like, yeah, I guess I did.So sure, looking like a grownup way too tough for us, but thinking about incredibly new provocative ideas, we can do that.

Dr. Tamara Rosier: Right. And they know. Yeah. So, you know, for your listener in the book, I said, you know, Hey, my ADHD is like, you know, like I have to run a three legged race. So it's the most with ADHD, you have to run three races.

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I kind of feel like we need extra credit for that. You know what I'm talking about? Like, it's like in high school, when you take honors classes or AP classes, you get more credits. So you can end up with a 4.5. I feel like we need that system for us. Like I did it and I have ADHD. Nobody has everything together, even though it feels like other people do, especially I compare myself to neurotypical people like, they must have their stuff together. Also we don't know what they're going through to make sure that happens. I remember I was at a neighbor's house and I was like, You do such a good job with like hosting these parties and having your house just like so presentable all the time. Dr. Tamara Rosier: You know, oh, I love, I loved that episode, by the way. I thought it was great episode. I, anytime a client brings like a Red Bull, Mountain Dew, whatever, any, any high caffeinated drink, I always point it out and I say, "Hey, you're self-medicating right now, which means we should probably have a talk about your meds. What's happening with your meds. Um, when, what are you thinking you need to drink this?" Or, you know, this time of year when we have to return right. Returning. It's like, oh, I'm never going to be able to return to this. How does this even work? And the truth is what's hard for us is usually simple for other people. But if we focus on that, we're going to miss that. There's some times we can look like freaking geniuses because our brains put things together that other people don't put together. William Curb: Yeah, but my thoughts going in a few ways here, because it is that idea that it needs to be my goal to have all my stuff put together, have it nicely tied up in a bow and that's never going to happen.

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