Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free

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Both Loft and Boundary can be made as solids or surfaces. In my view, if you’re using one of these features as a solid feature, you’re really not getting as much out of it as you could. I have actually used a solid Boundary once—not in a real part, but instead more in the lines of tech support. I don’t think I would ever use a solid Boundary feature in a real project, because there’s just not nearly as much benefit and flexibility as when you use it in its native state: the surface. How your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it I’ve read several books about boundaries and I thought that the information conveyed was given in a simplistic and easy to understand manner. Some reviewers were put off by the use of endearments such as “babe” but I wasn’t. The casual tone was more encouraging for me and more like I was getting advice from a friend. I mean, we make sacrifices all the time. We have families, we have spouses, we have partners, we have friends and family. Sure. But in general, I mean, I negotiate for my preferences all the frigging time because I want to, because I believe that my husband cares, I know he does, what I think and what I want. And I care about him too. So it isn’t like I’m trampling on him. If he says, “You know, Terri, actually, this thing is important to me.” I’m like, done. You also have the option to introduce guide curves, which will also influence how the geometry transitions between profiles. As you can see below the loft is following the guide curve as it transitions between profiles.

Hi friends, welcome to SolidWorks tutorials for beginners and in this tutorial post, you can see how to use SolidWorks boundary boss feature tool. Boundary boss or base tool is also like the other boss features such as Extrude boss, Revolve Boss, Swept Boss, Loft Boss etc; but much more advanced tool in terms of SolidWorks CAD applications. It helps to create complex designs which can’t be creating using other boss feature tool. In this tutorial I am going to share about SolidWorks boundary boss or base and a So, long ago before the book, I came up with this very in-depth list of what is okay and what is not okay in all areas of clients’ lives. So that’s from the lighting in your office to anything. How you’re communicating in your love relationship, the way that you’re being sexual with someone, every single thing, because most of the time, if, if you’re raised to just really want to avoid conflict, to… you know, it’s very easy to confuse compliance with compatibility. You know? And… Cole: Clean agreements are expressed agreements. We make no assumptions about what's happening and we are managing expectations for all involved. The same as when you start a new job, you have a clear agreement of terms. You might compromise on one part of that agreement, but you do not start that job without a clear promise of terms. Clean and clear agreements involve anticipating everything that could go wrong and putting a proactive boundary in place.

Terri Cole: Why is this so hard? When we’re boundary disasters though, someone else’s no can feel very devastating. And then finally, I was like, “This is the dumbest thing ever. Why am I doing this?” And I said to him, “Hey, I don’t know why, but if you are not there, it makes me feel like crap. This makes no sense. But can you just do me a favor and just, I’d like to make a simple request that you work to just be there before the train pulls in.” He’s like, “Of course, okay.” Now, he’s an easygoing Pisces. He’s 10 years older than me. So I’m not saying every person’s person is going to be as mellow as my husband. But you, you’ll get better at it the more that you do and you’ll find your style. And I know not everyone will do it with humor so… But I peppered that throughout. Because I find that you can just say when Bob says, “How much money do you make?” You know, you can say, you know… Or, “What are you doing on your personal day?” Let’s say. If he says, “How much money do you make?” You can say, “Trust me, Bob, not nearly what I’m worth.” Right? You’re not answering. Or, “What are you doing? You took off tomorrow, what are you doing?” “That’s why they call it a personal day, Bob.” Right? You have the right to voice your opinion even if others disagree. You have the right to be treated with respect, consideration, and care. You have the right to determine who has the privilege of being in your life.” Amen. “You have the right to communicate your boundaries, limits, and deal-breakers.” We’ll talk about that. “You have the right to prioritize your self-care without feeling selfish, and you have the right to talk true, be seen, and live free.” Whether you are struggling to set boundaries with your boss, speak authentically to your spouse, or are simply having a tough time, meditation can help you gain perspective and energy by clearing your mind on a daily basis.

Terri Cole: To become a boundary boss, as in to be healthy with your boundaries, you need to know what your preferences, your desires, your limits, and your deal breakers are. You have to be able to clearly and concisely communicate those boundaries if you so choose. Marie: Hi, Marie. I’m Marie from France. And I’ve been having trouble finding the right balance between being generous and flexible, and being more poised and respectful of my boundaries. So when I’m generous, I tend to give a lot of my time and energy but I feel like I’m a pushover. And on the other hand, when I have more solid boundaries, I feel like I may be too strict and the other person may take offense. So my question is, how do I know when I’m being too generous or too rigid with the other person? Thank you so much. But he didn’t even say, “Why?” He wasn’t even like, “That makes no sense at all.” Because in a way it doesn’t. So, understanding that the, the beginning you might react, you might have this very energized sort of overreaction when you finally say something because you’re so waiting for someone to be defensive or to be mean or to do something. So you’re like, “Yeah, Betty, I’m…” Betty is like, “Holy crap, I did not know that was coming.” But you will find your place in the middle. So, we do a lot of sort of role-playing in the book so that you’re able to say it. Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships.

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And the thing with emotional boundaries is that someone’s saying, “You shouldn’t feel that way. That’s dumb, right?” Nobody has a right to tell you how you feel, and not to mention most of the time how the horse is already out of the barn, because you’re like, “Oh, good, you told me I shouldn’t feel that way. Now, I don’t.” You’re like, “Too late. I already feel that way.” Right? Once I got over my insecurities I actually learned a lot about boundary setting from Terri Cole. I heard this quote (I don't know where I heard/read it but a google search tells me its by Kristen Neff) which changed my approach towards this book. "Unlike self-criticism, which asks if you're good enough, self-compassion asks what's good for you." I am what I tell myself I am, if I stop seeing myself as the victim then I can go ahead and apply all the productive tools Terri Cole suggests in setting boundaries. Since having read the book I've noticed I'm more honest with my boundaries and I don't feel as guilty as I would have before, about setting them. I can still have boundaries and be in service to people, these 2 principles can go hand in hand, you just have to be smart about managing expectations. Terri Cole: She is telling the truth. But this is what, when we over give, when we over function for others, this is what I call high functioning codependency, right? Because we can kind of do it all but not forever. In Boundary Boss , psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life.

Terri Cole: “There’s a billion and five other things I could be doing right now. I’m not looking at the top of your head while you scroll Insta. Absolutely not, so, no.” And people are like, “You’re a pain,” I’m like, “No.” And this should be in our lives, we’re having these, I call it like life light, where we think we can multitask. And yet there’s been Harvard studies that tell us, we cannot, we’re just doing everything 30% shittier, so we actually can’t.This is a crash course in communication integrity―with so many clear and comforting techniques. Terri is a straight-talking psychotherapist who knows how to get us from unhealthy compromise to loving engagement.” ―Danielle LaPorte, creator of The Desire Map and Heart Centered Marie Forleo: Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and welcome to another episode of MarieTV and The Marie Forleo Podcast. If you’re someone who struggles with setting good boundaries, you’re going to love today’s episode. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. For over two decades, Terri has been working with clients and her special gift is taking complex psychological concepts and making them actionable and accessible. She inspires over a quarter million people each week through her courses, blog, and podcast, The Terri Cole Show. Her book, Boundary Boss, is available now.