Lighter: Let Go of the Past, Connect with the Present, and Expand the Future

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A rare and insightful journey into the author’s own healing jour­ney will inspire you to let go of the past and find a lighter path forward. As always, yung pueblo speaks truth in such an eloquent way. This book is a true gem.” —Sheleana Aiyana, author of Becoming the One An empathetic and wise book that will guide you on a journey toward a deeper understanding of self.”—Nedra Glover Tawwab, LCSW, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

The shift finally came when I stopped throwing pleasure at the problem and started nourishing myself with nonjudgmental and honest attention. The refocusing of my energy into paying attention to all my changing emotions had an immediate effect. Paying attention eased my incessant craving for more pleasure and I stopped feeling so ragged and run-­down. Through understanding and accepting the impermanence of life, we relinquish our hold on how we wish things to be, and accept how they really are. It is about training ourselves to set aside the emotional baggage we carry, so that we are 'informed by the past, but no longer weighed down by it'. It also sheds fascinating light on the extent to which our minds are so heavily conditioned based on our past. The brain unconciously bends our perception of reality to meet our expectations or desires, and fills in the gaps based on past experiences: 'Our perception is completely coloured by our past and our reactions seek to repeat themselves endlessly'.

When that first emotional spike occurs, use the knowledge that this emotion is a reaction based on past experiences to pause, take a breath, and give yourself the space to ride the wave of the emotion. Once the initial feeling dies down, use that space to think more objectively about what’s happening. I’ve been following yung pueblo on social media for a little while now, and I love his little sayings. When I saw this book had come out, I was excited to read it as I thought I’d get more of that. Either way, it’s important to understand what self-love is not. It’s not materialistic. It’s not about giving yourself a spa day or treating yourself to ice cream because you deserve it. There’s nothing wrong with either of those things, and they can be acts of self-care, but that’s not the self-love we’re talking about. You can’t have a do-over for a bad decision you made. You can’t have a father who didn’t walk out on you. You can’t have the marriage you wanted that ended up failing. You can’t have . . . well, you can fill in the blank here. Motivation, Inspiration, Mindfulness, Happiness, Religion, Spirituality, Self Help, Poetry, Psychology, Mental Health, Philosophy, Personal Development, Autobiography, Memoir, Alternative Medicine, Meditation, Personal Transformation, New Age Meditation Table of Contents

True self-­love is multifaceted and includes radical honesty, positive habit building, and unconditional self-­acceptance. These three pillars work internally and externally to generate and support an enduring sense of self-­love. Seven: you can now hear the voice of your own intuition and you find that it’s guiding you in a positive direction. New York Times Bestselling collection of poetry and short prose focused on understanding how past wounds impact our present relationships. If you continue to tread down the path of lies, fear and its two primary manifestations—anxiety and anger—will continue to grow. First, you fear truth and then you lie to be rid of your fear, unwittingly falling into a loop where you actually continue empowering your fear because every lie breeds further anxiety. The only way to put an end to the burning fire of fear is by thoroughly extinguishing it with truth. Dishonesty is the fear of truth.Support is voluntary. If either of you is placing expectations on the other, or if you feel the other owes their time and energy to your support, then you have a problem. Mutual love and respect rooted in emotional maturity in both parties is the only way for a relationship to truly thrive. This is what healing looks like. Progress is slow and you’ll continue to encounter challenges. Sometimes it’ll be the same challenge and you’ll wonder why you’re still fighting the same battle. What I found unique about this book is that it not only talks about healing yourself, but how to improve the world too with structural compassion. He writes that one of the best things you can do to better the world is to simply heal yourself. I thought that was a lovely reminder to stay committed to your healing journey and not get too overwhelmed by everything that needs to be done to make the world a better place.