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I was 19 when I first had full-on sex with another man. I was at college, living in dorms, and the experience—aside from the usual horrifying awkwardness and somewhat spontaneity of the occasion—was completely and utterly unremarkable aside from one thing: the guy I slept with identified as straight. Disparities in sleep problems between the LGB and general population have been documented in prior studies [ 25, 29– 31]. LGB individuals are more likely to report short sleep duration and other sleep problems, including snoring, sleep latency, and low sleep quality, compared to the general population [ 17, 32, 33]. A population-based study examining 169,392 adults found that a greater number of sexual minorities reported less than 5 h of sleep compared to heterosexual individuals (17.3% vs 12.2%) [ 10]. In a US population-based study, gay men had 32% higher (adjusted) prevalence of trouble falling asleep and a 22% higher prevalence of waking up feeling unrested compared to heterosexual men, whereas bisexual women had a 43% higher prevalence of trouble falling asleep compared to heterosexual women [ 29]. The whole thing went down near the end of my freshman year at a party, at which people from the whole dorm floor were drunk and celebrating, carelessly streaming in and out of each other’s rooms, following the various different pop songs until one room took their fancy. I can remember, although I'd had some drinks, sitting alone in my friend’s room on a single bed, the mattress overly springy and with a coarse plastic coating, attempting to stream a song over our dorm’s spotty Internet connection.

D’Augelli AR, Grossman AH, Starks MT, Sinclair KO. Factors associated with parents’ knowledge of gay, lesbian, and bisexual youths’ sexual orientation. J GLBT Fam Stud. 2010;6:178–98. Milton DC, Knutson D. Family of origin, not chosen family, predicts psychological health in a LGBTQ+ sample. Psychol Sex Orientat Gend Divers. 2021. Carastathis GS, Cohen L, Kaczmarek E, Chang P. Rejected by family for being gay or lesbian: portrayals, perceptions, and resilience. J Homosex. 2017;64:289–320. Chen J-H, Shiu C-S. Sexual orientation and sleep in the U.S.: a National Profile. Am J Prev Med. 2017;52:433–42.Maybe you can be the one to elicit the darker truth. Think about it. His mother was dying. He was lonely. He was scared. You don't have to become his therapist to suggest that he be frank with you about the emotional needs that are driving his behavior. Maybe his marriage is unsatisfying. Maybe he feels people don't respect him. Maybe he's trying too hard. He continued threatening and putting psychological pressure on me by saying that he would disclose my [sexual] orientation to others, share our conversations with the police, and send my photos to homophobic online groups that publish personal data of LGBT people and call for retaliation against them.

When I arrived at the apartment, the man told me to come in, go to the bedroom and undress and wait for him. After about 10 minutes, three men barged in. One of them was filming on his mobile phone. They started beating me on my head and body… They insulted me and said that I’m a prostitute, [that I] spread HIV… They also threatened me with article 120. In my younger days when we were funded only partially for professional conferences I shared rooms with colleagues — but beds never. And only this last weekend I shared a 4 bed room with friends on a weekend trip — we couldn’t get too doubles. Oddly this huge 4 double bedded room was wonderful — like a giant slumber party. But this was friends NOT co-workers.

After Umid, in his late teens, was cornered by one of his roommates in late 2019, he admitted that he is gay. The roommate said he considered homosexuality a disease and that “such people [LGBT] needed to be [medically] treated.” He threatened to out Umid to his family unless Umid agreed to attend a mosque with him. Umid did, but after several days refused to continue. When we were done, I do remember him giving me a fist-bump and saying, “Hey dude, it doesn’t count if you can’t see what’s happening.”

We have shared many rooms together over the years, but this time our housing arrangement required us to share a bed, which did not give me a moment of pause. Like many gay men, our platonic friendship began with a roll in the hay. That first time was something of a quirk for both of us, fueled by too much drinking and ecstasy. We are not each other's types at all. I should also mention that I have boyfriend and my friend is married, but neither of our partners came with us on this trip. Uzbek authorities have dismissed calls to decriminalize homosexuality. In March 2020, during the UN Human Rights Committee’s review of Uzbekistan, an Uzbek government representative said that the “lifestyle [of LGBT people] was not approved by Islam and was not in keeping with the Uzbek mindset.”

I Don’t Want to Sleep Alone (2006)

I have often thought about the dangers of incest and the reason for which this act is taboo is that the offspring resulting from such an intimate approach will often, if not always, develop severe mutations, which is why it is certainly off limits. But, on the other hand, how does this relates to something that you cannot quantify, such as love? What’s the moral approach when you are making love to your brother or your sister, but you protect yourself and you do not procreate? Who is to say we are immoral then? In the end though, he got me to release – but wow it took a lot of work. “Just do it dude – it’s your turn. Take a toke and put on the mask” The Here and Now We’ve always gotten along well but, I can’t say we were ever close. Well, at least not until recently. He's a gym trainer and sports freak How It First Happened I plan to bring this up with Boss, but I’m having difficulty on finding words that would be effective when I’m the only person who seems to find what happened unreasonable and unprofessional. Seeking advice from friends and family doesn’t bring my phrasing out of the “apoplectic” category. Do you have any advice you could share any advice on how to bring this up like a calm and reasonable adult? To me it is so incredibly obvious why you should NOT EVER SHARE A BED WITH A COWORKER. However, when I made a comment about it just as an aside to my coworker, Coworker replied wondering why bed-sharing was a problem, and I found myself at almost a complete loss for words to explain why this was so out of bounds. My manager never made any comment about the room or beds, either, and I suspect that they saw nothing wrong with the arrangement.

In any case, yes, yes, yes, speak to your boss. Say this: “Somehow on our last trip, Jane, Lucinda, and I ended up booked into a room with only two beds, and Jane and I ended up having to sleep in the same bed. I don’t know if it was intentionally booked that way or if it was a fluke. I’m not comfortable sharing a bed with a coworker, and I’m sure others aren’t either. I want to make sure we’re not intentionally booking people that way. Also, if it somehow happens again, I want to make sure it’s okay for me to expense a separate room at the hotel for one of the people.” It was listening to Years & Years’ new song “Sanctify,” and seeing the band’s out gay singer Olly Alexander talk about how the song was inspired his sexual trysts with straight men, that I realized that these feelings are way more common than people let on. Sure, I know all about gay guys having sex with straight guys, but it felt reassuring to see him describe the “saint and sinner role” he embodied during those experiences, and to hear the uncertainty and melancholy weaved into the song.His behavior also gave me new insight into the falling-out he had with a mutual friend several years ago, while we vacationed in the same resort town. They had been sharing a bed, and I noted that our other friend had begun to sleep on the sofa, too. They had an angry fight one night on that trip and they've never spoken to each other again. Dai H, Hao J. Sleep deprivation and chronic health conditions among sexual minority adults. Behav Sleep Med. 2019;17:254–68. Riggle EDB, Rostosky SS, Horne SG. Psychological distress, well-being, and legal recognition in same-sex couple relationships. J Fam Psychol. 2010;24:82–6. Laird J. No place like Home: relationships and family life among lesbians and gay men. J Marriage Fam. 2001;64:374–83.